If You Are Happy And You Know It Clap Your Hands

'If you're happy and you know it clap your hands.' So goes the children's song. But what if you're happy and you don't know it? What if you are so caught up in some passing drama that you have completely forgotten the deep well of contentment that resides within your soul? What if you are under so much pressure that the full focus of your attention is on a problem? What if you are forgetting that it is not the be-all and end-all of your existence? It's not so much that coming events will make you happy, more that they will remind you of what you already have to be happy about.

Believe

Believe that you’re special,

Through the hurt and the pain,

for sunshine will come,

after the rain.

Hold onto your dreams,

Let them not die,

And live not in torment by questioning why?

The answers are somewhere

and sometimes unkind,

with so many reasons

you will never find.

Be true to yourself,

Don’t be what you’re not,

For often you’ll find,

You’re all that you’ve got.

Don’t become battered,

By games people play,

And don’t take to heart,

What other’s may say.

You’ve got so much life,

And so much to give,

Go out and enjoy it,

Go out there and live!

Though heartaches are many,

And tears they will flow,

The more that you live,

The more you will grow.

There are many that love you,

Don’t ever forget,

Let the past be a lesson,

That you do not regret.

Pen Pal Romance

We have all heard the wonderfully romantic stories of pen pals that wrote to each other for years without meeting because they lived hundreds or even thousands of miles apart. They exchanged a few pictures and spent countless hours drafting letters back and forth, baring their hearts and souls to each other. Without ever dating, they fell in love.

Today we have Internet Dating. Is it really any different than meeting in any other manner? You still have to weed through the riffraff. You still have people presenting themselves as something other than what they really are. You still have crooks and cheats, predators. And you still have honest real people looking for true love.  However, you can also take your time with the ones who do seem promising. Sure, a lot of people say that the eyes are the windows to the soul and that you need to meet in person to get a real feel for each other. And I believe there is a lot of truth to that. Ultimately you do have to meet in person to determine if there is any type of chemistry between you or not. It is not something that can be logically determined. You feel it or you do not and you won’t know until you meet them face-to-face.

But what about those old pen pal stories? They fell in love without it being about sexual attraction. When we meet face to face with someone that we are physically attracted to, it is human nature to want to speed up the process so that we can get to the really good stuff! I am thinking that if we took more time in the passing of emails back and forth portion before actually meeting face to face, then we would be more inclined to fall for the person inside rather than for the physical beauty that can be so blinding to the truth about people. Please, I am not saying that all good-looking people are bad relationships waiting to happen. I just do not want to confuse the sexual attraction issue with real intimacy.

I feel that if you are looking to find that once in a lifetime incredible love, then why not take the extra time to do it right? Why not agree to write emails back and forth for a while before meeting in person? You have already seen their picture on the web site.  When you do finally meet, you won’t suffer those uncomfortable silences either, you will have shared laughs and have plenty to talk about. You will already be real friends.

So many people put in their profiles that they only want to meet people that are close to home, 50 kilometres, 100 kilometres, etc. Why not reach out across the globe. Why not find new pen pals to write to? Even if you never fall in love, you have gained a new friend and the experience of feeling connected to others. Who knows maybe your soulmate is just across the ocean. Perhaps they are waiting for a note from you in their inbox. Perhaps you will become one of those wonderful love stories worth telling your grandchildren about.

Leap Of Faith

Just imagine that moment that just precedes "the first kiss" ... and the emotional turmoil that goes along with it too ... the fear of rejection and all that madness ... think about it ... one little "Leap of faith" has the capacity to completely change the course and direction of your life ... one tiny little moment in time is all it takes ... overcoming the fear and putting it out there ... how many relationships are created on that "Leap of faith"?... Do the math and realise how many of those little moments in time that we have each day!  What if we were to act more and more on that inner voice within our souls? ... Just imagine what magic could happen?????

Happiness

Happiness is the consequence of personal effort. You fight for it, strive for it, insist upon it, and sometimes even travel around the world looking for it. You have to participate relentlessly in the manifestations of your own blessings. And once you have achieved a state of happiness, you must never become lax about maintaining it. You must make a mighty effort to keep swimming upward into that happiness forever, to stay afloat on top of it.

A Mirror

People think a soul mate is your perfect fit, and that's what everyone wants. But a true soul mate is a mirror, the person who shows you everything that is holding you back, the person who brings you to your own attention so you can change your life.

Gone But Not Forgotten

27 January 2011.  The saddest day ever!!  My little 5 year old great nephew, Logan, lost his battle with cancer.  He was in remission but by mid January had a relapse.  They gave him three months .... he barely made two weeks.... So sudden ... how is it even possible?  Memories of Christmas still so fresh in my mind.  Logan had the time of his life!  His laughter still ringing in my ears ... and now he is gone ... so young ... he had not even started out on life yet ... I have made peace with the fact that he is gone ... I would not have wanted him to suffer any more than he did, it just would not have been fair to expect him to try and fight to stay ... it would have been selfish expecting that ... expecting such a tiny person to endure so much pain ... no it just would not have been fair.... My little champion - rest in peace.  Gone but not forgotten!!