Wondering And Waiting

Wondering and waiting upon a moonlit midnight clear sky.... are you there my handsome love? A yearning hunger lay deep within me, stirring my soul to ever brilliant waves of energy and love … and yet who is it for? There is nobody here but me and so I wonder and wait for that special someone to hear my lonely cry in the middle of the night, to share a sweet embrace and a warm kiss against the cold beneath the beautiful moonlit night sky. The oh so beautiful moon, it's silvery sheen gazing down upon me, lulling me ever deeper into its mystic embrace… leaving me longing for a gentle tender embrace from another... a gentle deep kiss, lips taking in mine ever so slowly, the sweet taste of his mouth strumming me alive. Can you not hear my cry my handsome love, and feel my passion as I reach out towards you. Oh my handsome love, my oh so special love, where are you, why have you delayed so long to find me…will you ever find me?

Life ...

We always want life to be wonderful. Sometimes it is - and sometimes it isn't. Why is that? Does life itself change, or is it just our perception that alters, causing us to feel that some days are great, others rotten. Just as it is possible to 'learn to love' certain foods, colour schemes, styles of music and even people, if we are really willing to try, we can learn to love situations and experiences. Some events will prove easier to enjoy than others, but all have the potential to be magical.

Friends And Enemies

We can't always be sure who our friends are. Some people treat us nicely because they want something from us. Others can be rude and deliberately set out to challenge us.  Friends take liberties that enemies would never contemplate. Friends don't always do us favours. But who are our worst enemies? The people who used to be our friends.  You may need to redefine your involvement with someone with whom you would once co-operate with without question. It may, or may not, need to change, it certainly needs to be thought about.

Where Has It Gone

Where has it gone, romance, manners, chivalry and all the other stuff that life has lost! Come on people these things used to matter! I am fed up with these people today with the attitudes.  I like to get to know the person first!  Always have and always will!! Enough of the f*cking around and serious mind games! Come on people these things used to matter!  Why is it these days that when you have just interacted with a man via e-mail or chat on the internet it has to lead to “what colour panties are you wearing…”.  Give me a break!!  I thought you had potential … I wanted to get to know YOU as a person and my hope was that you wanted the same.

My hope is that women will finally stop accepting this shitty behaviour from men and demand to be treated as they deserve. Maybe men will finally get it. Maybe then, they’ll be more like the heroes we see in romance novels – and I’m not referring to tall, brawny and well-endowed – I’m speaking of a man with honour and integrity. Someone a woman wants to share her life with ... a relationship based on trust and respect for one another.  A relationship where you share laughter and fun and support one another’s dreams.   A relationship where intimacy matters ...

For me, looks have never been important when it comes to loving a guy. A sense of loyalty, fidelity, integrity and maturity happens to be what I’ve always looked for. Sadly, it isn’t often I find it in men older than me, much less ones that are younger.  Am I ever going to find a guy who wants to be with me because of who I am?  Maybe I should just settle at being single ….

If You Are Happy And You Know It Clap Your Hands

'If you're happy and you know it clap your hands.' So goes the children's song. But what if you're happy and you don't know it? What if you are so caught up in some passing drama that you have completely forgotten the deep well of contentment that resides within your soul? What if you are under so much pressure that the full focus of your attention is on a problem? What if you are forgetting that it is not the be-all and end-all of your existence? It's not so much that coming events will make you happy, more that they will remind you of what you already have to be happy about.

Believe

Believe that you’re special,

Through the hurt and the pain,

for sunshine will come,

after the rain.

Hold onto your dreams,

Let them not die,

And live not in torment by questioning why?

The answers are somewhere

and sometimes unkind,

with so many reasons

you will never find.

Be true to yourself,

Don’t be what you’re not,

For often you’ll find,

You’re all that you’ve got.

Don’t become battered,

By games people play,

And don’t take to heart,

What other’s may say.

You’ve got so much life,

And so much to give,

Go out and enjoy it,

Go out there and live!

Though heartaches are many,

And tears they will flow,

The more that you live,

The more you will grow.

There are many that love you,

Don’t ever forget,

Let the past be a lesson,

That you do not regret.

Pen Pal Romance

We have all heard the wonderfully romantic stories of pen pals that wrote to each other for years without meeting because they lived hundreds or even thousands of miles apart. They exchanged a few pictures and spent countless hours drafting letters back and forth, baring their hearts and souls to each other. Without ever dating, they fell in love.

Today we have Internet Dating. Is it really any different than meeting in any other manner? You still have to weed through the riffraff. You still have people presenting themselves as something other than what they really are. You still have crooks and cheats, predators. And you still have honest real people looking for true love.  However, you can also take your time with the ones who do seem promising. Sure, a lot of people say that the eyes are the windows to the soul and that you need to meet in person to get a real feel for each other. And I believe there is a lot of truth to that. Ultimately you do have to meet in person to determine if there is any type of chemistry between you or not. It is not something that can be logically determined. You feel it or you do not and you won’t know until you meet them face-to-face.

But what about those old pen pal stories? They fell in love without it being about sexual attraction. When we meet face to face with someone that we are physically attracted to, it is human nature to want to speed up the process so that we can get to the really good stuff! I am thinking that if we took more time in the passing of emails back and forth portion before actually meeting face to face, then we would be more inclined to fall for the person inside rather than for the physical beauty that can be so blinding to the truth about people. Please, I am not saying that all good-looking people are bad relationships waiting to happen. I just do not want to confuse the sexual attraction issue with real intimacy.

I feel that if you are looking to find that once in a lifetime incredible love, then why not take the extra time to do it right? Why not agree to write emails back and forth for a while before meeting in person? You have already seen their picture on the web site.  When you do finally meet, you won’t suffer those uncomfortable silences either, you will have shared laughs and have plenty to talk about. You will already be real friends.

So many people put in their profiles that they only want to meet people that are close to home, 50 kilometres, 100 kilometres, etc. Why not reach out across the globe. Why not find new pen pals to write to? Even if you never fall in love, you have gained a new friend and the experience of feeling connected to others. Who knows maybe your soulmate is just across the ocean. Perhaps they are waiting for a note from you in their inbox. Perhaps you will become one of those wonderful love stories worth telling your grandchildren about.