Broken Hearted

This is for the broken hearted. I know how you feel. Empty, betrayed, and no happiness whatsoever. You don't want to laugh, because you know it's not going to help, but you don't want to cry, because it will just make you feel worse. You feel like your heart is falling apart, but not only that, you know soon your life is going to feel like it's falling apart too. You don't think it will ever end, and no matter what this person has done to you, it feels impossible to stop loving them. And everyone wonders why if they have hurt you so much, then why do you still love them. That's the confusing part, you don't know why, you just do, and the people who hurt you the most, are normally the ones you love the most. You wonder why they hurt you, all you did was love them. Then, after a few weeks, you finally feel a sense of relief, like you're getting happy again, but you know inside that you're just going into denial. And after a few more weeks, you're back to where you were, an empty soul and teary eyes. You thought you got over them, but really, you just stopped showing it. And you can't help but to show it again. It leaves deep scars on your heart that are there forever. And no one understands how you feel, and how deep you are hurt, no matter who they are, because it hasn't happened to them. And even if it has, every broken heart is different. They don't know the true pain you feel and carry each and every day now, so you learn that basically you are alone with all this. And the feeling starts to overwhelm you, and suddenly you just break down, right there, because you know you've had enough, the tears just instantly start flowing, and you're to the point where you don't care who see's. Because you've spent so many nights lying awake in bed, and so many days being haunted by the scars and fear of rejection. And in the midst of all these tears, you know that its not helping any, and it's not going to bring them back, if you ever even had them in the first place. After about a million tears have been cried, you finally pull yourself back together and keep going. Your throat starts to clench and your eyes burn with the tears you are trying to hold back. Everyone says, "It will be okay…” But you know it won't. And that’s the truth, it won’t. And you look back on all of the hurt you had from this, and you realise that people are mean. They said the most hurtful things which replay in your mind…over and over again.  You're still hurt, but you've learned to hide it so that everyone thinks you are okay. So now every time you think of this person, you know you still love them, and you feel a slight tingle in your heart yearning for them to love you, screaming out, but for some reason they don't hear it. And then you sit back and wonder how one person could have caused all of this...and you wonder…if sometimes it's better to be alone. No one can hurt you that way. Sometimes we must get hurt in order to grow, we must fail in order to know. We need to remember that life is full of beauty and pain, that the world will break your heart and heal it, over and over, if you let it, and that letting it do both is the only way to live fully, that we are not alone but deeply connected to that which creates and sustains all life. You are still worthy of love and capable of letting love back into your life when you are ready. Sometimes our vision only clears after our eyes are washed away with tears to see the new beginning, the new life in front of us.

Chickens and Eggs

Grab a cuppa - it is thought provoking!

The greatest potential, I have discovered, is almost always overlooked. The troubled child grows up to be the respected leader, the gentle rainfall becomes the mightiest river and, more often than not, the tiniest acorn produces the grandest tree. In hindsight, final circumstances seem so obvious, so important and so very permanent. But how did we miss the beginning?

It's human nature, I suppose, to be mesmerized by the now and see the end as the only meaningful reality. It helps unclutter the mind and, for a brief moment, life is kept simple. But, ultimately, there is a tremendous cost.

Many of us will witness a quick glimpse, for better or worse, of our own future. Long-term relationships, parent/child dynamics and complicated family decisions will most likely be the areas of concern. Some, however, may feel this manifest in the areas of past life knowledge, dramatic romantic changes or the emotional significance of childhood events.

How did this all begin? What is the essential message of this experience? Where is all this going? It is important that we witness the cyclical nature of life's message. And, from a spiritual perspective, it is absolutely vital that we complete the circle.

And so, many of us will unearth a great personal insight and, begin to appreciate the unique relationship between beginnings and endings. The world, or the end result, will soon change and the meaning of those changes, or the original intentions, will first be witnessed on an individual level. People will feel it before the world will see it.

And given the true nature of “chickens and eggs” those changing circumstances may be far more complicated and painful than anticipated. It's important, however, to remember the original intention of creation. Refuse to mistake discomfort for completion. For each chapter that closes, another begins.

Encouragement

If life were entirely devoid of hope, joy and justice, all of us would soon lose heart. We keep on going because we know that this is not the case. We are just as encouraged by the ups as we are disappointed by the downs. Indeed, though we generally prefer to avoid keeping a running tally, we are inclined to suspect that the good things outnumber the bad, quite possibly by a considerable margin. On what is your optimism based? Blind faith? Or wise experience? Trust what inspires you the most.

The Moon And The Stars Have Never Lied To Me

The older I get the more I realise that life is really quite simple. It's not who you are…it's what you know. And, deep in our hearts, we all know what is right and we all know what is true. So…why do some people still pretend? Or shall I rather say, why do people lie to themselves and to other’s to hide what we know deep in our hearts to be true?

Lying fosters helplessness, transfers blame and sullies all forms of intimacy. For the fearful, self-doubting types of this world, lying creates the illusion of strength, control and power. Lying disguises weakness. I need to clarify here that I am referring to lies in terms of emotions, true feelings that are felt within the heart.

We all, from time-to-time, react from fear. Vulnerability is a very human trait and often triggers intense reactions. However, it is also our best pathway to honesty, sensitivity and lasting intimacy. When we love, we are always vulnerable. And that's the way it is. It takes courage to be in a relationship and it takes a lot of hard work and this is where sometimes the fear sets in. Some are so afraid of losing the good thing they have and this is possibly due to something that happened to them in their past or during childhood. For some reason they were abandoned by someone important in their lives and are afraid to have to endure that experience again and this results in them fleeing from the relationship for fear of abandonment. This however is not going to resolve abandonment issues. Other’s again are afraid of committing to a relationship for fear of losing their freedom altogether. Then there are other’s who believe in perfect love, and they are devoting all their energies to achieving it. They however need to be careful of setting their hopes too high, though. By searching for the ideal person, they sometimes ignore the one who could make them truly happy.

In the end no relationship will ever be flawless so the goal is to get as close to perfect as you possibly can. All relationships have their ups and downs. When things go downhill we need to take note of why that happened and learn from it. If the couple parted, hopefully with the lesson learnt, there will be an opportunity to resurrect the relationship. These days people are too quick to walk away, or otherwise, as mentioned above, for some strange reason they do not want to admit to what they truly feel in their hearts. They do not want to admit it to themselves, to their friends or even the person they had the relationship with as they view this as a sign of weakness. Some are even to scared to resurrect a relationship because they also view this as a sign of weakness but in reality this is just a sign of being stubborn.  They are unable to admit that they truly love their partner. I will go back to this again later. Right now I want to go back to the lessons learnt. The universe gives us these times to clean things up in our lives; it reminds us not to make the same mistakes over again. During difficult times or separation from a partner, there can be an element of victimization and feelings of frustration or anger and hurt. Take this time and go within and see where the issue is that can be resolved, if possible. All of this may be part of a wake-up call and there can be sudden, unexpected insights or information which can bring the potential for healing.  If you are able to sit and discuss issues with your partner, then do so. Perhaps this issue has to do with one partner’s patterns and habits.  Maybe someone close is ready to change, or may be feeling exhausted with their old patterns and habits. Allow all such observations to be fully expressed. Listen to what your partner is saying. Maybe you’re asking too much – by wanting to have constant reassurance? Try to be less demanding. That way you’ll avoid one potential source of conflict. The romantic in you is predominant. Feel the chemistry between you and your lover. Let it fester and then grab a hold of it. Be creative, play games, get crazy and fall in love once again. Less focus on the flaws of your relationship and more focus on the “big picture” keeps romance lively and stimulating.  If you feel antsy about a commitment, give it all you have. If you’ve been holding a grudge or punishing someone who wronged you, stop drinking the poison of resentment. Forgive and move on with the relationship. Bury the hatchet for good and begin a fresh chapter in which you never discuss whatever the subject was again.

I now go back to what I said above:  In this day and age people are too quick to walk away, or otherwise, for some strange reason they do not want to admit to what they truly feel in their hearts. They do not want to admit it to themselves, to their friends or even the person they had the relationship with as they view this as a sign of weakness. I would personally have to say that that is possibly the main reason why there are so many single people out there. If you know what is in your heart to be true then do not be afraid to admit it. This is the most crucial factor to the beginning of happiness. This factor makes you powerful because you are able to reclaim lost innocence, you can forgive past transgressions or return to a more intimate, trusting stage in a vital relationship. Let the mistruths of the past fade. It's time for acceptance.

There is great benefit to energizing the ideal relationship for it will always have you working toward a better connection.  You know you'll have to shoulder extra responsibilities to make all the components of a completed union come together. But it’s a small price to pay for something so special. Don’t be fooled, listen to your heart. Don’t become one of those statistics – I recently heard of a couple that found each other again after sixty years!! Had they each admitted to what was in their hearts from the start they would not have wasted sixty years!! The moon and the stars invoke emotions…the moon and the stars have never lied to me…not even once…why should we then lie to ourselves or other’s about what we really feel for someone special? Why should it be seen as a weakness? You don’t want to end up being in your eighties and wonder “what if…” At the end of the day if you can experience true love and happiness then why not grab it with both hands and give it all you’ve got.

How To Keep A Relationship

How to keep a relationship: COMMUNICATE...Talk about things, the GOOD and BAD...Build TRUST, Be HONEST, Be FAITHFUL, Be there for one another...Make TIME for one another…Leave the PAST to the PAST, which include`s EX`s, know that having arguments is Normal. Know that you won’t always be HAPPY... Don`t expect change. Appreciate the flaws. Appreciate each other. Become BEST FRIENDS. And lastly LOVE each other UNCONDITIONALLY.

Risks and Possibilities

Think of the risks you have taken in the past. Some emotional gambles have worked spectacularly well and others have backfired badly. Or so you are inclined to think. But how can you be so sure? Perhaps the problems you encountered were perfect in their own way. Perhaps you really needed to go through those difficulties. Perhaps, without them, other wonderful things would never have been possible. Caution rarely gets us very far in life. Courage rarely proves regrettable. Don't be put off by past problems; just be inspired by future possibilities.

Finding Someone To Love

Oh how the heart does yearn for that gentle touch
or to just hear the words of another
speaking all that is within their heart to you.
For there is nothing more tender
than the love of someone
who can lift your soul clear to the heavens
with just a smile, a kiss or a touch.
To share everything within your soul,
your dreams, your fears and hopes,
in essence sharing all that you are
with that special someone.
Feeling the unity of two souls joined as one
as the passion between them is revealed,
skin against skin,
affections bringing about the intensity of the heart
within a single moment
that shall last for an eternity.
People say you need not to find someone
for you have the love of family and friends,
but that is a different type of love.
They do not understand the yearning within
when the heart does cry
and you long to fill that empty space
not only next to you within your bed
but within your life as well.
The need to feel touched so tender and lovingly,
within the heart from their affectionate offerings
as well as the sensual touch upon the skin.
We all need to be loved
in many different ways in our lives,
that is what we live for,
long for......even dream about.
And needing someone to fill that missing piece
is what we all want to find
so that we can feel whole,
needing more than just what family and children can offer.
It is not foolish to need someone to love,
it is being human and true to yourself and your heart.