Thursday, December 17, 2020

I Don't Care

"I don’t care how spiritual you are. How long you can melt in the sweat lodge. How many peyote journeys that have blown your mind, or how well you can hold crow pose. Honestly. I don’t. I don’t care what planets fall in what houses on your birth chart, how many crystals you have or how vegan your diet is.

I want to know how human you are. Can you sit at the feet of the dying despite the discomfort? Can you be with your grief, or mine, without trying to advise, fix or maintain it? I want to know that you can show up at the table no matter how shiny, chakra-aligned or complete you are - or not. Can you hold loving space for your beloved in the depths of your own healing without trying to be big?

It doesn’t flatter me how many online healing trainings you have, that you live in the desert or in a log cabin, or that you’ve mastered the art of tantra.

What turns me on is busy hands. Planting roots. That despite how tired you are, you make that phone call, you board that plane, you love your children, you feed your family.

I want to know that you can show up and do the hard and holy things on this gorgeously messy Earth. I want to see that you can be sincere, grounded and compassionate as equally as you are empowered, fiery and magnetic. I want to know that even during your achievements, you can step back and be humble enough to still be a student.

What’s beautiful and sexy and authentic is how well you can continue to celebrate others no matter how advanced you’ve become. What’s truly flattering is how much you can give despite how full you’ve made yourself.

At the end of the day I don’t care how brave you are. How productive, how popular, how enlightened you are. At the end of the day, I want to know that you were kind. That you were real. I want to know that you can step down from the pedestal from time to time to kiss the earth and let your hair get dirty and your feet get muddy, and join the dance with us all."
by Taylor Rose Godfrey



Thursday, December 3, 2020

By The Book

Essential Meaning “Abiding by social rules ~ Conformity ~ Respecting cultural or family customs ~ Universal Laws”

The Oracle’s Message: “The universe works within a structure of Divine laws and principles that provide a framework for human experience and evolution. The Law Of Abundance, The Law Of Prayer, The Law Of Karma, The Law Of Attraction, The Law Of Thought, The Law Of Compensation and the Law Of Nature are only a few that are known. These principles create perfect order and operate with a kind of precision beyond human understanding. Even revolution has its place in universal law. Human beings, in turn, have their own laws and customs that vary from culture to culture and family to family. Laws keep social order and govern behavior, reflecting an instinctive understanding that harmony is important. This is a time to learn these laws and conform to them, rather than being the rebel and flouting them. When this card appears, submit to structure and follow the rules even if they seem to make no sense. Release resistance, for universal laws will correct any disharmony. Open your eyes to those universal laws, and it will be easier to go by the book at this time.”

~ by Colette Baron-Reid

It is imperative that we learn to live by the Laws of the Universe and allow them to work in our favour. Our society has many laws that we must abide by in order to maintain structure and safety in our everyday environments. When we think of laws, we may think of restrictions, we may feel that we are held back. We may worry about the penalties of breaking the law and what that would look like.

But what about the Universal Laws? Have we ever thought deeply about how these really affect us and our ability to manifest our desired reality? The Law Of Abundance states that we are all equally worthy of the abundance of the Universe. The Law Of Prayer states that all of our prayers be heard, and all those that are for the Highest Good Of All, by the Grace of God, be answered. The Law Of Karma brings us the consequences of our actions. The Law Of Attraction magnetizes to us what we are attracting due to our own vibration, thoughts, feelings, beliefs and emotions. The Law Of Thought is closely linked to the Law Of Attraction in that whatever we think over and over is what will be created around us, for better or worse. The Law Of Compensation deals with that which is inherently ours and cannot be taken from us. The Laws Of Nature are many and deal with the unbreakable rhythms and cycles of Nature, Mother Gaia, the weather, elements, environment and Cosmos, birth, death and rebirth.

How can we use these laws to the best benefit of ourselves and our own lives, with the intention that they work for the highest good of all? It starts with acknowledgment of their deep and unmovable power, and the mindfulness to life by them daily. We are required to filter our thoughts, learn to control our emotions. We must learn to release the drama and reactivity, and embrace peace and thoughtfulness. We must look at our thoughts, actions, emotions and intentions and fuel them purely with Love.

When we can do this, we can do anything… love, heal, create, manifest, dream.

It’s all possible using the Laws Of The Universe.



Monday, November 16, 2020

I Wonder

What a beautiful song!! From when it was launched I just cannot hear it enough...if I could, I would put it on replay for the whole day...

I wonder, why I'm so afraid of saying something wrong and never said I was a saint... I wonder when I cry into my hands I’m conditioned to feel like it makes me less of a man (woman)...And I wonder if some day you'll be by my side...And tell me that the world will end up alright...I wonder, I wonder...



Monday, October 26, 2020

Love On The Brain

When an old song grabs your fancy again...got me like ah-ah-ah-ow...🎸🎸🎸makes me want to swing from the chandelier!!πŸ‘€πŸ‘€πŸ‘€ Ok, now I'm just being daft πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚ just love my music! πŸ’₯πŸ’₯πŸ‘…πŸ’“πŸ’“





Something To Think About

 You get just one chance to change it (whatever "it" may be for you) then it's gone...and it never comes again.

Home gives you something no other place can...Home is where your history begins...home is the place that will catch you when you fall...and we all fall.

You don't need to be scared when you try something new...remember, fear is only as deep as the mind allows.

Most of us have a good luck charm...it's lucky because it lets you find things you need...it helps you find your way home if you get lost.

Don't ever catch yourself thinking you are not good enough...look around you...look at what you have done...look at what you have done for yourself...you've got it all.

You'll discover a family you never had...before your life is done.

No matter what troubles you have...there's someone in the world who cares.

You may not control all the events that happen to you...but you can decide not to be reduced by them.

Learn to trust happiness...when a kitten opens its eyes...the first thing it sees...is its mother.







Monday, September 21, 2020

I Think I'm Ready

 Celeste sounds almost like Adele on this track. Black Coffee does it again! Love this!! πŸ’πŸ’πŸ’πŸ’₯



Wednesday, September 9, 2020

Right Time

When is the timing right? Is it about Divine timing? Fact is, time is an illusion. What is possible tomorrow or ten years from now is possible right now…in the now, in the now, in the now…because all you have in life is the now! You may be wasting time by waiting for the right time, thinking that things have to line up in a certain way or you must have certain certainties before emotionally, you’re able or willing to let loose, or do whatever it is you want, or have whatever it is you want. The time is right whenever you want it to be right. Just get emotionally aligned with whatever it is you DO want.


Tuesday, August 18, 2020

Brave Hearts

Stand up for what you believe in, even if you're standing alone, and know that the Universe rearranges itself for the brave hearts. 

"Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us." ~ Marianne Williamson.


Wednesday, August 12, 2020

The Proof

This guy is really so good! Again, it is a general reading, however I felt very much like it was a personal reading for me. It resonated completely!

Yes...I am giving something one last shot. There are reasons. It is my destiny. My personal vision for my life. (the Hierophant)  there are things I have to learn. Yes! I have to hit the books again!! I have gained a lot of wisdom and the beeper confirms it. Definitely giving it one last shot. No, it does not pertain to love. Yes, I am so over all the Bozo's! I don't want to be with them. When I was married, I lost my husband to the mistress of gambling and alcohol. After my divorce the men that entered my life just went from bad to worse. They were liars,  manipulators...players and cheaters. I dreamed for years of a man who couldn't live without me, a man who pictured my face when he closed his eyes, who loved me when I was a mess in the morning and accepted when dinner was late and even when it ended up being burnt to a piece of charcoal! I look at my son and see how he absolutely loves Storm after all this time. How when he looks at her, you can actually see the love in his eyes for her. I have always wanted someone to treat me the way he treats Storm, I just didn't know that I'd have to give birth to him! Quite ironic...At least I know there is such a man on this earth...I could not be more proud of my son! As for me...pfffttt...at this point in time I don't think there is anyone who could check all the boxes. I AM setting myself free. I AM releasing myself from the restriction (eight of swords). The REASON is because of my beliefs (the Hierophant). I AM challenging those beliefs in my own life. As for the Knight in shining Armour...no. I don't believe in fairy tales anymore! Goes back to my belief systems. Trust? I don't know if I am capable to trust anymore. Too many disillusionments in my life, however, I am trusting that the Universe is leading me in the right direction this time. The sky is the limit for me (the High Priestess). I am working on something "old". The proof or something needs to be proved. Yes, I need to prove something to myself. I am trying again. I need to push myself (the coming to the edge card). I have all of this pressure in my life because of what I believe. I am changing the way I look at things (the Two of Wands). The learning rings true. In order for me to get where I want I first need to do a course. I am putting that into action. I have let the past go (the Fox). I want to move, but the timing is not right again (Five of clubs). Whoever is moving towards me...well that would have to be left in the hands of fate...I believe what will be, will be (the Marriage card). (Six of Diamonds) Definitely time to be bold and be assertive!


Thursday, August 6, 2020

Trying To Make Sense Out Of This Connection

You had my attention all the time....

This resonates 110% if I place myself as the person on her right (or on viewing face on, then it would be the left of the screen) where she refers to "you".

Perception is in the eye of the beholder. There's a lot of thought, but not a lot of talk. You are certainly not going to chase. It's a weird standoff. They (the other party) feels sad that you (me) walked away from the connection, but feeling justified in cutting the connection, they feel justified in their decisions?? 

How do you really feel? Emotionally it gets to me...I'll put my attention elsewhere and I will bury that emotion...Note the caution: I am carrying the weight of the emotion into the next chapter...when you carry the weight of the past into the present it tends to repeat itself in the future. Be cautious with that energy. Distraction, distraction, distraction...oh yeah...there's those emotions again (yip...exactly that).You can feel those depths of those emotions and bury them and still be able to live a pretty content life. You'd feel a lot lighter if you just released that. Focus on the things that build you up. If it keeps coming up, then maybe you do need to communicate. (Yes, I don't want to do that because the other person restricted communication from me). 

What does the other person feel? What do they want? They want communication. They are restricted but they want it. This person genuinely wants my attention...(hmmm, I don't know about that, I highly doubt it as I think they are committed elsewhere). This other person may feel that I will not accept what they want to say (IF they do want to say something, then they must say it, I will listen). I have all their attention...(Do I?) Or vice versa - They want my attention (yet they don't know that they have had all of my attention all of this time). We could both be doing the same thing!! 

What are my hopes? I want that enlightenment. I want the truth without having to look for the truth. I want another perspective. What are their hopes? They hope that things work in their favour.

Future energy. I have the choice (free will). I have really let this get to me emotionally. I tried to detach from this multiple times. It DOES intrigue my mind as to why that keeps coming back to me. I WANT to know! There IS NO direct communication. I am trying to make sense of all of it. 

The other person's most likely outcome. The other person chose someone else. (Yes, that became very evident to me). They took action elsewhere. The other person is looking for someone who is on the same page as them (the whole package). They felt they could not keep my attention - for whatever reason they felt justified in it, yet at the same time they want some sort of communication and attention. They feel I would not give them any attention if they tried. They think its not possible. I'm in this space where I feel it's done (because they walked away...that's why I feel it's done). (With regards to the previous reading in mid July - Yes, I did step back because I saw a foto that threw me off and yes, I must not allow myself to get stuck there. I must remind myself how bad ass I am and how valuable I am as a person and just move forward). 

With regards to the other person. We both want attention but don't want to give attention, and as long as long as that continues, it will continue. Either way, the other person is not going to do anything that will impede their confidence, values or whatever. They're looking for a like mind.

....Could be dealing with another Scorpio. This is a general reading and therefore does not apply to everyone. It resonated on my side with regards to me - as for the other person - I really have no idea if it resonates with them - I can only assume or guess what the other person MIGHT be feeling or thinking. For all I know they could be feeling absolutely nothing...which could only mean that there is absolutely no connection anymore. Who knows...without communication there will never be an answer...




Tuesday, July 7, 2020

Earth Tremor

Today I felt an earth tremor. I first heard this rumbling sound - like thunder in the far distance. Next thing I felt the tremor and even my windows rattled! Immediately the song "If the World was ending" came to mind. It got me thinking. We have never had a major earthquake here in South Africa. What would I do if ever there was one? Scary thought. I would rather not dwell on it. Nope. Let me not even go there!! Update: After some research it turns out it was an earthquake. It measured 3.50 on the Richter scale.



Sunday, June 28, 2020

Onai (To See)

Onai is a musical work about persevering through hardships. The message herein is that life is a struggle littered with hills and valleys that can only be navigated by focused resolute individuals, absent of slothfulness. Onai also underlines the importance of offering gratitude to God for the little that we have. In Shona (African language) Onai means "to see" or "behold".


Thursday, June 11, 2020

Freelance Virtual Administrative Personal Assistant

As the corona virus ravages through communities globally. It has caused great moves to play out in the market and individuals have been taking advantage of this. Our lifestyles and more, will, and, have changed. 

Crisis moments present opportunity, more sophisticated and flexible use of technology. Unfortunately, those without easy access to broadband will be further disadvantaged. The paradox of online communication will be ratcheted up. It creates more distance, yes, but also more connection, as we communicate more often with people who are physically farther and farther away. The COVID-19 crisis has already forced people back to accepting that expertise matters. People are finding new ways to connect and support each other in adversity. COVID-19 will sweep away many of the artificial barriers to moving more of our lives online. Especially now with so many that have lost their jobs as a result of companies closing. Many companies cannot afford to keep their full staff on in various departments. 

Not everything can become virtual, of course. While not every job can be done remotely, many people are learning that the difference between having to put on a tie and commute for an hour or working efficiently at home was always just the ability to download one or two apps plus permission from their boss. In other words, it turns out, an awful lot of meetings really could have been an email. And now they will be.

This was a time for me at looking within and asking: “What can I authentically offer? I have a life, a history. What do people need?” I have experience in a variety of categories that I am able to offer online. I had to reinvent the wheel so to speak. I am now offering my services to any Corporate entity, or individual Business owner, anywhere across the globe. I am offering my services as a Freelance Virtual Administrative Personal Assistant. Virtual Reality allows us to have the experiences we want even if we have to be isolated, quarantined or alone.

I will be your Virtual Administrative Personal Assistant

Over 15 years professional experience in an Administrative Personal Assistant capacity providing support and assistance to both a single department and multiple individuals throughout a company.

A comprehensive working knowledge of various computer applications including MS Word, Excel, Powerpoint and Wordpress.

An independent worker who uses her initiative and organizational skills to get the job done.

My expertise includes:

  • Drafting any correspondence, emails and agreements
  • Proofreading and editing
  • Translation from German to English, or Afrikaans to English, or English to Afrikaans – my written German is not that great and therefore do not want to disappoint by translating anything INTO German. I can translate FROM German into English.
See the services I offer within my profile with price options on the link below. I no longer offer these services (updated 3 November 2021).





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Sunday, June 7, 2020

The Pandemic On My Life

I sit in deep thought and give one big sigh. I question "why" and "how". I reflect. I get angry. Who do I blame for this upheaval in my life? I ask myself: "Where to from here?" This pandemic has wreaked havoc on my plans, my goals and my dreams. It has isolated me from friends, family and neighbours. I long for the friendly, and sometimes biting banter between my family, as we enjoy a meal or coffee and cake together. 

How long will this last? Will I still achieve my goals and dreams? I wish I could see a “light at the end of the tunnel” – a tunnel that at this moment appears without end. I feel like I am stuck in a circle! The angst I feel feeds an intense desire for certainty. This pandemic has pulled the rug from under my feet! The seeds I had planted are now frozen. The result of that, well, I had to reinvent the wheel, so to speak. It took some time, but time was endlessly available, thanks to being "house bound". This was no time for complex deliberations. 

Another consequence of the pandemic, a positive at least, has increased my sociability and has boosted my appreciation of my family and friends, and even a yearning for warmth and comfort, the realisation that we cannot hack it alone. The pandemic has altered who I am and how I relate to people and the world. I suspect many people will look back and see this as a time when things changed in their lives. I heard this song and it could not be more apt to dealing with the pandemic right now, and with us having a "strawberry full moon" eclipse right now.


Sunday, May 10, 2020

Mother's Day

My Mother kept a garden, a garden of the heart. She planted all the good things that gave my life its start. She turned me to the sunshine and encouraged me to dream. Fostering and nurturing the seeds of self-esteem. And when the winds and rain came, she protected me enough. But not too much because she knew I’d need to stand up strong and tough. Her constant good example always taught me right from wrong. Markers for my pathway that will last a lifetime long. I am my Mother’s garden. I am her legacy. And I hope today she feels in heaven, the love reflected back from me. Wishing all my friends and family a Happy Mother's day! πŸ’œπŸ’πŸ€

Thursday, May 7, 2020

Subconsciously

Subconsciously, she wonders What it's like to be in love She wants to be his everything But a pride relents too much [Chorus: Sabrina Claudio] In another lifetime, she'll lose control And she'll give it all and leave room to grow In another lifetime, she'll be more at ease And then, finally, admit I am she [Post-Chorus: Sabrina Claudio] She'll love when she's ready She'll love when she's ready, yeah She'll love when she's ready She'll love when she's ready, yeah She'll love when she's ready She'll love when she's ready, yeah She'll love when she's ready She'll love when she's ready (Give her a moment) She'll love when she's ready She'll love when she's ready (And she'll set herself free) She'll love when she's ready She'll love when she's ready (When she is ready) She'll love when she's ready She'll love when she's ready (I know 'cause she's me, oh) She'll love when she's ready She'll love when she's ready [Verse 2: Sabrina Claudio] Subconsciously, she wonders How it feels to give herself up She died to be the one he needs But his dependence is overdone [Chorus: Sabrina Claudio] In another lifetime, she'll lose control And she'll give it all and leave room to grow In another lifetime, she'll be more at ease And then, finally, admit I am she [Post-Chorus: Sabrina Claudio] She'll love when she's ready She'll love when she's ready, yeah She'll love when she's ready She'll love when she's ready, yeah She'll love when she's ready She'll love when she's ready, yeah She'll love when she's ready She'll love when she's ready (Give her a moment) She'll love when she's ready She'll love when she's ready (And she'll set herself free) She'll love when she's ready She'll love when she's ready (When she is ready) She'll love when she's ready She'll love when she's ready (I know 'cause she's me, oh) She'll love when she's ready She'll love when she's ready [Outro: Sabrina Claudio] Mm-mm-mm, mm-mm




Monday, May 4, 2020

Literally And Figuritively Drained

This past week I was literally and figuritively DRAINED πŸ˜’. Sunday I started feeling strange. Loss of appetite already told me something is wrong. I usually eat supper latest 19:30. The way I felt reminded me of the time I had double pneumonia a few years ago. I eventually only got hungry at 10 on Sunday night. During the course of the night I had a high temperature. Monday morning got up. Felt bleh..I just couldn't keep my eyes open! Then the chills started. I crawled back into bed. I slept until after 11. Got up. Was hungry, ate my muesli. Next thing I have to run...cos I have the runs! So now I google symptoms. Alarm bells and panic sets in. Well, I have to ride it out. I have mild symptoms. No cough. No shortness of breath. I can breathe fine. As the day goes on I feel better. Even ate supper. During the night things change again. Temperature so high that I need to get up and keep my face in cold water. Morning comes I need to get up quickly. I barely make it. It's just water!! This carries on til mid morning. Then I start feeling better again but no energy. Tuesday night hardly ate. During the night have to change PJ's twice as they are drenched with perspiration. In the morning I barely get to the loo. Still water! I feel so weak. Back to bed. It was crazy how it came in waves. When I spoke to Rita or Jason or Sharon on the phone it sounded like I was dying. Yet when I spoke to Angie or Karin or Fazila, I sounded normal. Wednesday the stomach cramps started. No matter what I ate...it went straight through! I was going to phone the Doctor later on Wednesday but then felt fine again. Wednesday after I had showered and washed my hair, I took the hairdryer and blasted the hot air around my nose. I remembered seeing a video somewhere where some chinese doctor recommended doing this if you thought you were infected. Yeah I know...I ONLY started coughing when I pulled that stunt!!! Did I curse that chinese doctor from a dizzy height in my mind!! Anyways, Wednesday night I even cooked up some homemade chicken soup. It was delicious! And then bam...that night was my worst ever in terms of drenched PJ's...chills and cramps. Thursday morning I never made it to the loo...I called my Doctor that morning!! Now a different procedure. If you suspect you are infected you can't just make an appointment. The doctor calls you to assess you first. Which my Doctor did. He asked me my symptoms. Asked me to breathe deep, in and out, through my nose, then again through my mouth, to establish a dry cough. The cough I developed from the hairdryer stunt had disappeared. I told my doc about that and he said it's all BS. Anyways, he said it does not sound like I have been infected with cv19 but that I do have a bacterial diarohea which is doing the rounds. He suggested I come for a blood test and if it does not show as this germ that he suspects, then he would do the cv test on the weekend. In my state as I lock the house I realise I have locked my house keys in the house!!! Panic stations at first until I "think" again. Right, call the landlord for the spare keys. Sorted. Had the blood test. My doctor said he would call later with the results. He only called Friday morning. So its a bacterial diarohea that I have. He is concerned that my illness rate for this (he called it Cp something or other. This test can tell how ill you actually are) is very high at 60% and says I need to get the antibiotics asap as well as something called smecta which binds the stomach and a probiotic. So as soon as I got the script I raced off to get the meds, like a child able to spend money on sweets!! So far so good. The doc and I still joked when he asked my email adress...I said its marina2...but after this week there's only one of us sitting on the couch!! πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚ Today is Monday. I am slowly but surely getting better! I am still battling to get my energy back, but hey, after a frigging week of hell...that should be understandable!

Tuesday, March 24, 2020

Lover

I was never a fan of Taylor Swift until recently. Our local radio station seems to be playing the remix of Lover with Taylor Swift and Shawn Mendes repeatedly throughout the day. Now every time it comes on the radio I find myself turning up the volume and singing along. My poor neighbours must be reaching for the ear plugs every time! πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚




Monday, March 23, 2020

COVID-19 Coronavirus: A Fake Pandemic? Who’s Behind It? Global Economic, Social and Geopolitical Destabilization

The media hype and disinformation campaign regarding the spread of the COVID-19 novel coronavirus have created a Worldwide atmosphere of fear and uncertainty following the launching of a global public health emergency by the WHO on January 30th.

The fear campaign is ongoing. Panic and uncertainty. National governments and the WHO are misleading the public.


COVID-19 Coronavirus: A Fake Pandemic? Who’s Behind It? Global Economic, Social and Geopolitical Destabilization

Event 201 simulates an outbreak of a novel zoonotic coronavirus transmitted from bats to pigs to people that eventually becomes efficiently transmissible from person to person, leading to a severe pandemic. The pathogen and the disease it causes are modeled largely on SARS, but it is more transmissible in the community setting by people with mild symptoms.

The disease starts in pig farms in Brazil, quietly and slowly at first, but then it starts to spread more rapidly in healthcare settings. When it starts to spread efficiently from person to person in the low-income, densely packed neighborhoods of some of the megacities in South America, the epidemic explodes. It is first exported by air travel to Portugal, the United States, and China and then to many other countries. Although at first some countries are able to control it, it continues to spread and be reintroduced, and eventually no country can maintain control.



Stay At Home South Africa

The Kiffness’ David Scott recently released his own version of Toto’s Africa in the hopes of spreading awareness around social distancing amid the coronavirus outbreak. This comes after President Cyril Ramaphosa officially declared the coronavirus outbreak in South Africa a National State of Disaster a week ago and after stringent regulations have changed the daily lives of almost all citizens in an attempt to quell the spread of COVID-19.




Friday, March 20, 2020

Corona Virus

We now have 202 confirmed cases in South Africa! I was apalled at the ignorance of a woman that just posted on the I Love Fourways Group asking if Monte is open. Her reason is she wants to go to movies and lunch!! When everyone started gunning her for her carelessness, she comes back with the argument that this will not be curbed! FFS!!! Stupid ?@*#!! This is for the ignorant, born under a rock...➡Dick and Jane BOTH πŸ‘₯ show early 🀒symptoms. Jane STAYS HOME🏑, gets tested 🧫 and awaits her results πŸ›€πŸ». Dick goes🀡🏻 to work 🚘, stops for a quick drink 🍻 at the local bar, pops by his parentsπŸ§“πŸ»πŸ‘΅πŸΌ house, hits the gymπŸ‹πŸ», begins to feel worseπŸ€’ (eh, but even if he does 🀧 have it, he's healthyπŸ’ͺ🏼, so he'll recover quickly⏰). Dick finally decides to get tested πŸ§ͺ. Both Dick and Jane get 🦠 positive test results. Jane 😷 infects no oneπŸšͺ once she πŸ™Œ started to show symptoms. Dick potentially 🏟infects dozens, if not hundreds 🧨, by his SELFISH πŸ—£ behavior. Be like JaneπŸ‘. Don't be a Dick πŸ™„


Monday, March 9, 2020

Flux

Would we be living in Camden? Getting a ticket to your band? I wanna know, I wanna know. Would we be eating a chicken burger at Grill Rock? Strolling through Hyde Park hand in hand? Sitting on a bench on the banks of Regents Canal eating an ice cream cone?




Wednesday, March 4, 2020

Wounds Of The Past

I was best friends with someone since we were at primary school together.

While she was outgoing, an extrovert, I was much shyer but we complemented each other quite well and I always felt protective of her.

We lived in the same suburb and our weekends were spent biking around and hanging out at each other’s houses.

There was a park nearby, and our gang of friends would head down there and hang out or we would go to one of the gang's houses and swim and just lie next to the pool. It was a proper carefree childhood.

Once boys got involved, things changed a bit. I wouldn’t see so much of her when she had a boyfriend.

We had fall-outs, but always made up.

She was even there at my wedding and I was at her's.

Our lives were completely intertwined. We’d chat regularly, or send messages, albeit I was mostly the one to make the calls, and when she got pregnant with twins and had them, I would give up my weekends for the first two or three months to relieve her Mom who was helping her look after them, so that her Mom could at least spend weekends with her own husband (my friends Father). I even went on holiday with my friend and her husband to help with the babies. I already had my son and as the twins grew older they loved playing with my son.

As the kids grew older, we would go on regular girls' nights out just to catch up.

We had an absolute wonderful time in 2013 when she invited me on a seaside holiday for three weeks. At that time I was dealing with my illness and had just had a couple of operations, so it was a great opportunity to just recover.

Suddenly, in late 2014, it all started to change and I realised I was being invited to fewer get together's.

To begin with, I didn’t think too much about it. But it wasn’t long until I realised that I did not fit into the circle anymore. It was made clear when one of the girls we were at school with messaged me and asked if she would be seeing me later. I told her I knew nothing of the get together. I must add here that this school friend and another only joined our get together's around 2012/2013. Getting back to this message from the other school friend. I was hurt by the fact that I had not received an invite, but I let it go. Then the pics of their night out were posted on FB. Again the hurt feelings. Next came the year end function and again I had to endure seeing the pics on FB. But again, I let it go.

I stopped calling. I would only call on Birthdays and Anniversaries. I noticed that even my FB posts were being "liked" less and less. My well wishing posts for Anniversaries were not even being acknowledged.

When I moved to where I am now I happened to post something on FB re my new garden. This friend was quite surprised I had moved and commented as such on FB. Well, why the surprise? That is what happens when you don't actually communicate anymore.

The kids were now well into their adult years and inevitably starting their own lives and getting married. I was invited to the daughter's wedding last year April 2019. I RSVP'd that I would attend. However, in March of that year I had health issues. I actually remember the date it started! 15 March 2019! It was the weirdest thing ever. It all started when I put my face up to the shower, as the water hit my face I suddenly got this shooting pain all down the left side of my face, into my neck and down my left arm! The pain came out of nowhere! I eventually started getting nerve pain in my gums on the top left side and the pain would somehow enter my left nasal cavity. It progressed to a point where I could not eat, smile, laugh, talk, yawn or even blow my nose!! It was insane! I even had a back molar extracted as it was thought it was the tooth. I had tests done. I was even scheduled for a CT scan! I was placed on all kinds of medication. I was told I had Shingles in the mouth which was a part of the Varicella Zoster Virus. Diagnosis also pointed to severe sinus infection. I then had an allergic reaction to the medicine. Easter weekend I was bed bound! By that time the wedding was a few days away. There was just no way I was going to be able to attend. I tried calling my friend but could not get hold of her so I called the daughter and asked that she please tell my friend that I am ill. I left it at that. To this day I still do not know exactly what is wrong with me. It appears whenever I am stressed out that I get this "pain" in my top left gum. It is not as severe as it was last year. I can tolerate it. When it happens I have learnt to take time out to just break away from any stresses.

Now, I must mention, in 2018 for my Birthday, my friend tried to call me but there was something wrong with my phone. I only discovered this the next day when I got her message. I tried to call her but she was not answering so I left a voice note explaining what had happened. She never bothered to call me back. In 2019, early in the year, it was my friends Birthday. I tried to call her twice on her cell phone and once on her landline. I left a message on her landline. I posted on her timeline on FB. This was only acknowledged two days later.

As time passed after the daughter's wedding I somehow sensed that something was not right. Then when my Birthday came around last year, she did not even phone or even post on my timeline. It was then that I realised this friendship has come to an end after 45 years!

A few days later, I messaged her and invited her for coffee, determined to have it out with her. It took her three days to read my message! She replied that she could possibly do the following week. I said she must let me know which day suited her. I then followed up. She gave a day. When the day came she messaged me to say she was not ready to see me as she was still hurt that I never attended her daughter's wedding.

I was gobsmacked when she messaged me this! I then messaged her back and laid out exactly why I could not attend, I also let her know how hurt I was that she could not even phone me for my Birthday and the fact that it took two or three days to even read my messages let alone respond to them! She replied that she was sorry about that with the excuse that that is just her! Carrying on further to say she would definitely see me in the New Year. I responded that I looked forward to it and wished her a Merry Christmas. To this day she has not read that message! Three months later!!

The New Year came and went. Her Birthday came...and went. Did I call her? No. I did not call her as the hurt that I have felt over these last couple of years is now no longer so easy to just let go of. Perhaps the nail in the coffin was that she had not called me for my Birthday. That pain felt like a dagger in my chest! The event that put my coffin in the ground, so to speak, was when I happened to see on FB a few nights ago a photo shoot she did with all the girls at the seaside resort where I had gone on holiday with her. Oh, and I need to add here, I found out that I was invited on the seaside holiday only because her husband had suggested it! But, getting back to the photo shoot, I get the feeling that it was done on purpose to drive the message home that she has her friends and I am not one of them.

I don’t think I’ll ever truly know the reason why she did it, I think she used it as an excuse to get me out of her life. Well, she got what she wanted.

I had to make a difficult decision for my own peace of mind. I blocked her from social media. Was I perhaps too harsh in doing so? No, I don't think so. Why? Because every time I come across her name on my news feed, my heart sinks low into the pit of my chest. All of the raw emotions return with a vengeance, and I feel a familiar nausea settle within my stomach. I feel keeping this so called friend on my social media can and will only damage me. Whatever is going on in her life should no longer concern or interest me. Not after the way she has treated me.

Unfortunately, not all friendships end nicely. In fact, most never do. Sometimes people resort to spitefulness or revenge in order to hurt you and get you to react back. These people might spread rumors, try to get people to “take their side” and dislike you, and do everything in their power to keep you angry and hurt. If you feed into these people, you will always lose. Their goal is to hurt you and make you look bad, and the minute you retaliate they win. So what do I do? Nothing! Yeah, it is definitely easier said than done, but it will only benefit me positively in the long run by not even reacting and by not being exposed to her malicious tactics.

I’ve always believed in holding on to the friends you have. That’s why I can’t get over it.

I will miss her friendship and wish I could get some form of it back, but I’d struggle to trust her again.

We knew the best and worst of each other, and when we met up after not seeing each other for a bit it was like we’d never been apart. I don't think it will be like that ever again IF we had to reconnect.

In times of loss and hurt, it is easy to forget the great things that we still have all around us. I may have lost a close friend, but I need to keep in mind the people who still have my back, love me, and are ready to help get me back on my feet after all these raw emotions I have to deal with. One lost friendship does not mean I have lost everything.

Always remember to count your blessings and appreciate what, or who you still have in your life. The wounds of the past do not define you!












Sunday, March 1, 2020

Hope

I hope you find what you’re looking for out there.

I hope you find the kind of happiness that exists on your own terms. I hope you truly take the time to figure out what moves you, what encourages your soul, what you deeply crave from life, and I hope you have the courage to chase that. I hope you have the courage to believe that you are deserving of everything you desire, that you are capable and worthy of creating the kind of life for yourself that sparks something within you. I hope you never let convenience, or comfort, or the easiness of standing still put the fire within you out. I hope you show the world what you can do with all of that passion inside of you.

I hope you find the kind of love that makes you a softer person. The kind of love that makes you want to be a better man or woman, the kind of love that believes in you and supports you, that stands by your side. I hope you find someone who quickly becomes your favourite thing, someone who makes the fall less fearful, someone you can’t help but choose every single day. I hope you find someone who shows you just how deeply you can feel, just how deeply you can love. I hope you find something real, because nothing is more beautiful than loving someone who loves you back. Nothing is more beautiful than loving someone who builds you a home in their heart.

I hope when you look to the sky at night you see it like a mirror, and find the stars looking after you. I hope that wherever you look, you see a piece of yourself in everything, and recognize in yourself an entire universe. I hope you find something unexpected right in the middle of your pain, strength that shocks you, compassion that humbles you, an ever-budding peace so ancient it changes you. And in the end, I hope you find what you're looking for and I hope it makes you smile today.


Friday, February 28, 2020

Rare


Be Thankful

The mystics tell us that we can liberate our minds by learning not to want anything. Of course, we always need the essentials like food and water, but they are 'needs', not 'wants'. They're talking about the material things that confer status and power. They invite you to be grateful for what you don't have. We are so busy focusing on what we don’t have that we forget to pay attention to what we do have. It's easy to begin feeling you are somehow lacking because you haven't achieved the success or fortune of others. It can be easy to feel left out or feel one doesn't measure up. You may think that some people are lucky for having everything anyone could ever ask for, but just remember that everyone has their own struggles in life. Nothing is perfect, so be thankful for what you have or don’t have. Be grateful for the very fact that you are alive and still have the opportunity to make things happen or go after your dreams.This is something many forget to acknowledge. Always remind yourself that you are lucky to have what you have and try not to dwell over what you don’t.

Sunday, February 23, 2020

Choking

Have you ever found yourself choking on your own saliva? πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚ I am sure you have! People choke on their own saliva for different reasons. Maybe wanting to speak too fast out of excitement...or taking a breath before actually swallowing...ok...that sounds a bit obsceneπŸ‘€...but you get what I am getting at. I found myself choking on my own saliva after a sharp in take of breath in surprise at hearing a song that I had not heard in ages! I actually gasped when I heard the song! It kind of caught me off guard I guess, or rather more by surprise. Perhaps because I was possibly at a point in my life where I had put to bed any memories or thoughts relative to this song. If I can even put it that way. How can I explain this? Or maybe I just assumed I would never ever hear the song again. Needless to say, in a way it was really nice hearing the song again after a couple of years of not having heard it. It was almost like it brought different emotions to the surface. Hmmm...this is really difficult to explain. Maybe it will be easier to explain if I ask myself directly: "What did you feel or how did you feel when you heard the song?" My answer is: It felt good. In the past it made me feel sad when I heard the song. I did not feel that sadness this time. In the past I would actually be annoyed that the song brought all these various emotions that I had felt back to the surface. I felt I could relish in the memories this time. I felt happy. The song put a smile on my face! There was no hurt feelings or sadness. I was not annoyed at hearing the song. It really felt great to hear the song again! I even sang along and thoroughly enjoyed it. Almost as if I had a feeling of acceptance that that is what it was...And just like that...you make it new πŸ’₯...good memories! Perhaps the healing has been done! 😊😊😊  



Wednesday, February 5, 2020

Inspiration



Start a huge, foolish project, like Noah…it makes absolutely no difference what people think of you.

Live life as if everything is rigged in your favour.

Sell your cleverness and buy bewilderment. Cleverness is mere opinion. Bewilderment brings intuitive knowledge. 

Be empty of worrying. Think of who created thought. 


The very center of your heart is where life begins – the most beautiful place on earth. 


As you start to walk on the way, the way appears. 

Don’t you know yet? It is your light that lights the worlds. 

In each moment the fire rages, it will burn away a hundred veils. And carry you a thousand steps toward your goal. 

~ Rumi

Thursday, January 30, 2020

Memories

Sometimes you don't realise what you had until you don't have it anymore. It is during that time of being apart that you can ponder over what's best in life and what the most important qualities are in a partner that make a loving relationship last. If you are considering re-connecting with a former flame, here's the deal. Consider the life altering experiences you have gone through. If you feel you have done the work, the self-evaluation needs to be honest and sometimes brutal, if you are going to evolve and come out of it a better person. Have your priorities changed and can you now come from a more mature place?

When you get it right, the reward is mutual respect, sincere affection and perhaps love.

A loving relationship is about trust, integrity, chemistry and mutual respect. If you don't have those four things a relationship won't compensate, to the contrary, it will expose the lack thereof.

If you are going to reconnect. Take it slow. Earn each others trust again. Remember what brought you together the first time. Friendship! At the end of the day, that is the one element that keeps a couple together through thick and thin.

Looks fade. Lust and sexual attraction eventually become less exciting. But, waking up everyday to your best friend? Well, that is everything I would want from a relationship!


Yeah, we both know, in between you and me, there's an ocean. Castaway in a sea and it's frozen.