Fall In Love When You Are Ready, Not When You’re Lonely.

I find it very interesting to see the quotes that people post. Interesting in that the quotes are generally from people who are desperately looking for love. This makes the quote "Fall In Love When You Are Ready, Not When You're Lonely" quite ironic for those that post them.

I give here my personal opinion.

Most people that post a quote like this are the one's that are very lonely! Most of these people are the one's who will jump from relationship to relationship. It astounds me how sometimes I see even my own friends end a relationship and not even two days later they are already in the next relationship! Completely beyond me as to how that is truly possible but certainly does not surprise me when that relationship also collapses.

The thing is there is a huge difference between being ALONE and being LONELY. Those that take the time to be ALONE are the one's who take the time to heal from a broken relationship. It is in that time that they "find" themselves and take back their power. Those that CAN be ALONE in their own company are mostly the one's who learn to love themselves first and it is these people who, when eventually they do go into a relationship, are there for the long haul because they have learnt that they do not HAVE to rely on someone or even that they HAVE to have someone to feel complete. They appreciate the person they get involved with much more. The relationship is much stronger because each person is an individual living their own life but in true companionship. The relationship inevitably has all the right components to build a firm foundation.

I have been ALONE for quite some time but I am certainly not LONELY. I have my friends and sisters that I can hang out with and there are days where I do not feel like company and quite happily be ALONE doing my own thing like pottering around in the garden, reading a book or just sitting and thoroughly enjoying listening to music. I can also quite easily take my Golf Clubs and go to the club to drive some golf balls on the driving range. Going to a coffee shop and doing some people watching. I DON'T HAVE to have someone with me just to make me feel whole.

The thing is sometimes you can be in a relationship and still feel LONELY. I was always lonely in my marriage, not as a mother but as a wife. I was almost never alone but was always lonely. Being lonely is that kind of aching that resonates in your chest. That dull, constant feeling that follows you around all day long. It doesn’t matter what you’re doing or whom you’re with, it’s impossible to shake that feeling. Typically, these feelings are most prominent after recently losing that person who made your world a little brighter. Loneliness makes you wonder why. Why you? Why can’t you catch a break, why haven’t you had a simple stroke of luck? Loneliness is that prominent, gaping hole in your life that just can’t seem to be filled regardless of what you do. Loneliness is the 3am thoughts that haunt your dreams. Loneliness is that song on the radio that you have to turn off the second it comes on. Yes, I can relate to that. I was there as I am also only human!

Being ALONE is a different situation completely. Being alone is a state of being. When you’re alone you’re forced to realise all the things you don’t have, sure, but you’re also forced to realise all the things about yourself that you couldn’t when you spent your days memorising someone else. Being alone is taking the time to really think about what you want from someone the next time around, as I mentioned above, because you are going to do everything in your power that you never suffer from that loneliness again. Being alone is sitting under a tree for an afternoon and reading a book, and enjoying every single minute of it. Being alone is doing things by yourself, but also doing them for YOURSELF.

Of course, there are those times when being alone crosses paths with being lonely. It’s those times that you’re shopping for a new dress by yourself and you can’t help but notice that couple on the corner of the street. Their happiness radiates, and you remember the days when that used to be you. For a brief moment that dull feeling aches in your chest, but it doesn’t stay.

Being alone can be the most empowering experience of your life. If you let the loneliness consume you, you’re going to lose that rare chance to figure yourself out. You can always find company in yourself. Loneliness is going to try to force you to find that company with another person. Everyone has a place in the world though, and your's shouldn’t be with someone else just to escape the feeling of being lonely.

Do Something That Expands Your Horisons

Much needed advice for today. Resonating with me 100%!

Today's Daily Angel Card Message for Monday, November 20, 2017

You're caught up in the inception of something new, which presents or represents exciting possibilities! The tingling sensation, which rushes all over you, transforms your attitude. For now, everything seems optimistic and positive. The momentum is moving swiftly under your feet, which can help you transport your ideas and plans into concrete solutions. Take action in this optimal stream of emotional affluence and support. Focus on the passions which summon your attention fiercely. There's no reason for you to have doubts or to consider any limits. You have enough currency to back this up. Trust the creativity and inspiration you're channeling ferociously. You have an opportunity to make a great start.

A spark has flared in some aspect of your life. You are experiencing a soul connection in some way that is intimate and intense. You might be afraid of what you are recognizing, and it's possible you're not sure of what it's likely to become. This is an all too familiar place for you, and it scares you to not have all the answers beforehand. You've dealt with many disappointments on this front, and you're unwilling to take the risks only to be left with picking up the pieces of yourself afterwards. It's exciting to see and have another opportunity. You had most likely all but given up on there being any other chances left. It's your instinct to run, in order to avoid the pain of loss and failure. However, a surge of Ideas and energy is fighting to the surface from within the spirit of your heart. If you can ease up a bit on the circles of fear and negative flashback, you will be able to focus on the present forms of insights and wonderful dreams, which are taking shape for you now.

It's within your power to notice the signals that keep pointing out a specific direction for you to explore. If you keep your heart open to what's captivating you, it won't be difficult to follow the trail. Remove others with negative opinions from the conversation. You won't find much agreement when you are beginning to embark on a significant shift in events. People don't change with you in every detail of the process. Their initial reaction is to feel as though they're being left behind or cut out of the equation altogether. As a result, they'll rally against your decisions believing they are protecting something valuable to you. In actuality, they're protecting themselves, which isn't intentional. On the other hand, you get to decide whether you wish to continue to repeat this lesson at every turn in your life, or use it to reinforce the importance of choosing your own path. You're learning that your choices are spiritual, and in the pursuit of the freedom and happiness you deserve.

Don't give any decision too much power to dissuade you or to position you in opposition of achieving either of those goals. A complicated situation is energy being restricted from the direction it seeks to go naturally. The Princess of Spring (Page of Wands) represents fresh energy with no agendas suppressing it or manipulating its course. It's a crack in the shell, in which change is automatic, unstable, and unstoppable! Once it's released into the environment, alterations start to occur. This gift or desire was born of your own heart. The life it morphs into is still yours, and becomes whatever you launched from within yourself. You have to trust it and follow its direction. It's guiding you towards the alignment of the outcome and opportunities you're seeking. You'll enjoy the ride, as long as you don't contradict it's purpose in helping you fulfill it.

It may sound like you don't have a choice in matter. You may feel conflicted in some way about what you want and the desire growing in your heart, which is summoning you. As I look at the princess’s feet as she swings, it seems her thoughts have ignited a passion. The actions of her feet have stirred up all kinds of changes, which is symbolized by the butterflies. It's as if, you never know what you are going to get once you launch your dreams. There are so many hidden desires waiting for an opportunity to be allowed into your experiences. Blessings pour like rain when the floodgates are opened. You may be focused on something in particular. Meanwhile, it's something different or more you're given. In that moment, you may not feel prepared or receptive, as you might have imagined. The energy is flowing with advantages you might not always understand. However, it's easier if you go with it for all the possibilities, which might be forthcoming.

Standing still in a conflicted way means you're not trusting your inner well-being to know how to best help you find the perfect course for all you seek. It's not denying what you want. It's helping you to get ready for it in a way that is more in integrity with your spiritual truth. It's orchestrating a list of solutions with the least amount of stress. It's always working to minimize this for you. Unfortunately, we don't recognize or understand that we're not on our own, and complicate things by believing that our effort is more effective than the universe's inspired process of action. A soulful connection reminds you that you don't do anything alone or without any support contributing to your goals. This card may indicate someone with a strong fire of fresh ideas, and they don't take no for an answer. Their energy might be overwhelming and push your buttons, as too much too fast frightens you. Take a deep breath and relax. Listen carefully with your heart and to the changes it has already stirred up for you. May the Source be with you always!

Berry

Anywhere But Here

The air I breathe 

Gives me no release 

But merely strangles my soul

Won't let me be

And you should know

We've been here once before

I want to let go, but how? I don't know

Chorus

Take me away

Let me fall into your arms so I can

Be myself, because you understand

Take me 

Anywhere but here 

I feel what's home 

So why don't I belong 

And I can't get my head around it 

I'm not there yet 

It's not a race

I know I should take my time

But time moves on.

Afraid I'll get left behind

Never Too Old To Learn Something New

This is incredible! I nearly fell off my frigging chair once again!!! A page from the story of my  life as at this moment...well, let's call it almost a week. 

Today's Daily Angel Card Message for Thursday, November 16, 2017

You might not be fully aware of the influence you wield in shaping significant impressions in the hearts of others in your environment. You've worked diligently and consistently at carving a purpose from your passions, which have inspired and guided you. Whatever you have done and accomplished, you've used this as the template for your own motivation and sense of self worth. You still have an important role and opportunity of leadership to fulfill. It might not feel like you've been doing enough with your gifts and talents to make an impact of major difference. Sometimes, the big differences aren't always observable by size. The illustration on the card hints at this point best.

Notice the relationship between the older woman and the child. The older woman represents wisdom, expertise, and experience surrounding her craft. It's seems, even in this moment of her career, her wheels are still turning. Perhaps, she's been struck with new insights or developments, which might help her expand her goals. This might cause her to investigate this further. She has a strong notion that she'll want to explore it and see where it might lead. It might indicate other things, like resources, and possibly other networking, which opens other doors for her. As long as her imagination is actively creating, there isn't anything she can't still achieve, if she truly wants it. Meanwhile, the little girl is watching everything she does and mimics her example. She's absorbing the lessons her elder has digested and synthesized. You don't have to do extraordinary things to be extraordinary in the lives of others, or to be a role model of invaluable lessons.

Perhaps, one of these figures represents where you are at this stage of your process. The child sits cross-legged with bare feet. Her composure denotes being comfortable in her own skin and being in touch with her surroundings. She has removed any barriers preventing her from connecting with her desires and goals. Although, she's observing and learning, you get the feeling that she's doing what she truly wants. There's no apprehension or doubt. This is her choice to be there. She has a clear agenda to study, or explore, something that's important and intriguing to her at this time. Therefore, she's making herself available to be where she needs to go, and she's committed wholeheartedly. In a way, she's not fussing with her position of learning and development. She's perfectly content with this, and she's focusing on what she's there to receive.

There are some, when they find themselves in her position, wrestle with it and become frustrated. This happens when you forget to focus on what you came to accomplish, and become dissatisfied with not having yet what you're aiming for. You forgot that this was the necessary process to get you there. Becoming disgruntled with the natural flow of your process isn't going help you score any advantages. Simply, it'll rob you of all the pleasure which inspired your goal leaving you with very little sense of purpose and commitment. Eventually, once you arrive at achieving your goal, you'll have little appreciation and satisfaction in having your desire. It might disappoint you or cause you to look for something else to fill the void. If you aren't appreciating the position you're in, you're cultivating your ego's perspective and interpretation of lack, and mixing it into the equation of your objective. This is the kind of resistance, which is like adding termites to the structure of whatever you're building. Lack eats away at the infrastructure of any dream or plan you devise, if you are being conscious of what you're highlighting in your attitude.

Now might be a good time to reevaluate what your attitude towards yourself and your accomplishments are about your goals. A negative attitude isn't solving anything. Evidence of this is in what kind of experience you're shaping consistently from employing its use. It may feel better to rant for a bit to release some anger and stress. If it makes you feel better, have at it. However, take care to notice when it's enough. At that moment, you have to turn in the direction of where your relief is taking you. This has to happen, with the understanding, that this process of relief offers steps for the immediate moments following. You can't push for the long-term solutions or you'll trigger another episode of downward spiralling negative moods. The process of relief is universally focused upon the present always, and discerning the right possibility of choices for your ultimate happiness and fulfillment. Finding ways to glean the most from the journey you're traveling opens windows of possibilities and opportunities to help restore a sense of peace, harmony, and freedom within the alignment of your well-being.

One way to turn this around for you is to start to amplify what you're learning and share it with others in a constructive manner. The lessons you're experiencing can be of tremendous value to others. When you help turn the tides for others, you increase the momentum of your fortune, which can be measured in many ways, but most importantly by the sense of goodness and joy in serving a purpose. It'll help you digest and synthesize your situation and grant you access to the innate wisdom within to reveal new solutions and advantages you weren't seeing previously. They are always there, but your particular attitude gives you access or not. The older woman has learned from experience to rely on the creative process and an imaginative mind. She's worked through enough of her hang-ups to manage the rest in a practical way. She's not a slave to a timeline, and its expectations, based on the conditions of aging. Nothing can dictate to her what she can and cannot do. As long as she has access into the window of opportunity and solutions, she'll continue to live passionately through her work.
This card may indicate that you're never too young or too old to begin or learn anything. People only see the limitations you show them and what you highlight through your beliefs. You are truly creating your reality through your practice of actions, thoughts, and beliefs. You don't have to try to correct them through effort. Instead, work proactively by finding a positive goal you're passionate about. Even if it's a task for the purpose of providing relief from something stressing you. Knowing when you've done something enough is wise. To remain there any further isn't productive or constructive. This is the moment you've graduated from the lesson you had given yourself. You don't have to pass the test to get out. You only need to recognize that you can drop that course anytime you want, because you're the one paying for it in ways that's bleeding your worth.

Like the little girl, you acknowledge that you have the freedom and conviction to choose to present or not for what's meaningful to you. As the older woman, you see that the possibility of choices are unlimited and continuously expanding. Also, you recognize the benefit of releasing any struggle that drains you and no longer serves a valuable purpose, except to keep you tied up in delays. The power to choose the lessons you wish to create and experience are in your hands. You're a leader in every stage of your process. May the Source be with you always!

Berry

I have been evaluating my goals. I certainly have used what I have been doing as a template. I have been struck with new insights which might help expand my goals and I am definitely investigating this further. I do want to explore it! I do truly want it. It is other networking just as stated above. I have struggled with making this decision for a whole week now but this message has helped me see what and where I want to go with my goals. I know when I have done something enough and if I remain there any further it isn't productive or constructive. It is bleeding my worth and I need peace, harmony, and freedom within the alignment of my well-being. This week I have not been well at all but even in my state I still found pleasure in doing some research and studying. So it's all good!

Focus On The Lessons Which You Value

Today's Daily Angel Card Message for Wednesday, November 15, 2017

During meditation, the angels wrote the word, focus, in front of me. There may be some reason you find yourself distracted or even triggered by influences of the past. Perhaps, a memory has stuck with you throughout your life, and has created many challenges for you to overcome. Somehow, you aren't able to move past what occurred in the way you possibly understood it to have taken place. The last sentence of this card is really important to remember about how things seem once they've passed. We're often not really in a completely clear place to process what's happening in the moment, because we find it difficult to let go for the greater purpose of living in freedom. Our judgment of the past is matched by the level of perspective and clarity we've cultivated at the time. A relationship conflict might have gone awry due to a misunderstanding, because you weren't on the same page. It seems either of you weren't aware of this. It was like you were speaking to each other in different languages. In fact, you were reading the energy of communication through different lenses of interpretation. Not knowing or understanding this created a rift between you and left a void. Deep down, you crave closure. This craving robs you of the ability to open your heart and trust.

You may keep thinking that you could have done things better or differently. You're also wondering what you missed, or was it something you said or didn't for things to end up the way it did. This event has left an indelible impression and a mark in your instincts and beliefs about yourself and abilities. Perhaps, you are more cautious and less adventurous in the pursuit of your dreams. You have dialed back in the way you express yourself creatively. Once, you were very passionate and imaginative, and you trusted your vision and instincts. You were more open, optimistic, and focused upon your goals. However, an encounter caused you to doubt yourself. It was painfully sobering, but you shouldered all the blame upon yourself. You were too quick to do so, and this sabotaged your instincts and the opportunities you would ferret from them. It seems you hid in your disappointment as an excuse to give up. It's ironic, that what you should have given up, you held too tightly onto.

The angels walk you down this emotional lane in hopes that you might give yourself a break, and possibly imagine another version of this story through a compassionate perspective and voice. It might be helpful for you to speak in the light, and trust the vibration of healing to discern the truth you witnessed. During the entire process a higher level of understanding and perception was taking a different score and account of the situation, as it was unfolding. It's account wasn't disagreeing with the other perspective for their purposes are different. This higher understanding doesn't seek to disqualify your feelings, but to shift the outcome into profound opportunities of learning. This is meant in a similar way when you finally perceive the solution of a complexity with great enthusiasm and the most satisfying delight. The feeling of relief is unmatched, when your feeling of helplessness is unburdened. It's as if the moments prior were a dimly lit dream of agony you can barely remember for what cause. When you reflect upon the clarity, the circumstances only elicit immeasurable appreciation. This isn't an alternative possibility of the facts. This is your soul's spiritual account of your growth, which is constant in all aspects and circumstances of your life.

It might not always be the right time for you to acknowledge those lessons, as you are still on a journey where you will become primed for the best deliverance of its outcome. In that moment, it will benefit you the most, as well as those who are involved in it with you. Your roles together are creating possibilities and activating new opportunities from them no matter what each lesson is for the other. Your purpose or your lesson isn't black or white, so that you can categorize them into neat boxes. A lesson achieves the expansion of your soul's wisdom and guidance. It's not a test. It's not happening to you or being set up for you. It's created through you by the choices you make and the beliefs you hold. Your purpose evolves from them. A lesson is a path you set yourself upon, which is caused by an inner searching. The lesson is simple and what you seek isn't complicated. You are searching for what makes you happy, or happiness, and the answer is always whatever allows you to experience it. The problem is that you don't believe this is enough. You keep telling yourself that God wants more than this from you, and that makes it seem harder and the lessons come harder with it.

You're creating your own curriculum vitae and the exams. If you want it to be more fluent and productive, seek the course that allows you to experience it in this way. You don't have to write a complicated situation in order to feel like you're accomplishing something. That's the effort you assert into the process of your life, which is ego driven and authored. Every time you try to see your agenda through someone else's eyes, you make it more challenging than it needs to be for you. The slightest amount of needing to match others vibrational content is an effort for you, because it's not your own stream of alignment. Although, you are choosing the best of what they want, in your path, it's an effort, because it's not inspired from the alignment which flows through you naturally and easily. If you defined success according to your spiritual template, the details would be unique. The objective would be simple, authentic, and easier to execute, because you would completely understand and find satisfaction in it. You can't expect to see things the way another does. It's okay, if this doesn't happen. You're completely sane, if you find yourself in a situation where this occurs. Hearing someone else's definition of the circumstances helps widen your understanding of where others are coming from. Perhaps, you may find similar or common ground, in which you can work together. Likewise, you'll learn what boundaries to respect with them, and the value of this becomes beneficial to you for your own personal boundaries. Focus on the lessons, which you value. May the Source be with you always!

Berry

When The Truth Stares You In The Face

The truths we find hardest to believe are the ones that stare us in the face. We try to overlook them. We carry on as if we haven't seen the evidence, and take steps to avoid assimilating the information. We also don't just overlook the 'bad' things. Sometimes, because they seem to threaten our normality, we push good things under the carpet too.  Sometimes you're being presented with a new idea that will take time to absorb. Do this, and you'll soon appreciate its genius.

Problem Solving

Have you found yourself in problem-solving mode. Your mind is working at mind-boggling speed and efficacy. The problem, is deciding which problem to solve! There is a technique that you could easily overlook, which could render more than one problem insignificant. It's the ability to simply let go. There's a danger that you're holding tightly to an expectation of how something will 'work out for the best'. If you can reshape your anticipation of a result, you'll find that it becomes easy to solve.