Sometimes you don't realise what you had until you don't have it anymore. It is during that time of being apart that you can ponder over what's best in life and what the most important qualities are in a partner that make a loving relationship last. If you are considering re-connecting with a former flame, here's the deal. Consider the life altering experiences you have gone through. If you feel you have done the work, the self-evaluation needs to be honest and sometimes brutal, if you are going to evolve and come out of it a better person. Have your priorities changed and can you now come from a more mature place?
When you get it right, the reward is mutual respect, sincere affection and perhaps love.
A loving relationship is about trust, integrity, chemistry and mutual respect. If you don't have those four things a relationship won't compensate, to the contrary, it will expose the lack thereof.
If you are going to reconnect. Take it slow. Earn each others trust again. Remember what brought you together the first time. Friendship! At the end of the day, that is the one element that keeps a couple together through thick and thin.
Looks fade. Lust and sexual attraction eventually become less exciting. But, waking up everyday to your best friend? Well, that is everything I would want from a relationship!
Yeah, we both know, in between you and me, there's an ocean. Castaway in a sea and it's frozen.
