Thursday, December 25, 2014

Cry To Me

Last night while preparing for Xmas Eve dinner this song, Cry To Me by the Staccatos, came on the radio...oh my gosh what a lot of memories came flooding back when it is kind of a sad song but it is just oh so my sisters and I ofcourse put the volume up and it was just so awesome we all had goosebumps!! It was also such a fantastic evening...we had Roast Gammon, broccoli cheese bake, butter nut, roast potatoes and rice and salad and for dessert we had Tiramisu. The Xmas tree was spectacular and ofcourse the presents under the tree were all great...all useful presents. We had such a great time and laughed so was well after midnight before my son and I left my sisters to come home...Just before I lay my head on my pillow I remember glancing at the bedside was 01h50am!!

Friday, November 28, 2014

A Lesson In Life

People come into our lives for a reason and sometimes it is for us to gain a lesson. Sometimes it may be from a person we do not like or someone who caused us pain, but we have to remember that they were also on a path to learn a lesson from us. So if we can look past the hurt and the pain and embrace the lesson then we can exalt ourselves on our path. It’s not really a forgiveness in saying it’s okay what you did but it’s your response to what they did which is the ultimate lesson. So embrace those people in your life and allow that lesson to come in full light because what they taught you gave you strength, wisdom to go forward and to not make those errors again and to not get caught in those traps again. To understand where to draw the line in the sand. The more you concentrate on the hurt and the pain and the suffering you are going through or the chaos you had to endure, the more it stays in your reality. So pay attention to those negative thoughts that you have. Rather focus on the positive thoughts as this will bring healing. Look at the things going on in your life honestly, understanding the lesson of it all. Understanding the shields we have made for ourselves, breaking free of those bonds. Remember you can break free of those bonds at any time and move forward. We need to accept it’s the end of a path. It is time to start anew. It is time to take that step forward. It is time to embrace our lessons, understand them for what they are and exalt ourselves on our path.

Monday, November 10, 2014

Just Salt Water And Desert

A song that has really taken my fancy…is the soundtrack for the up and coming movie “Leading Lady” and features an actress from Britain, Katie McGrath and our “home boy” – a well known Afrikaans singer, Bok van Blerk. Perhaps the reason for me really liking this song is that in a way I can relate to this song. A kind of role reversal if you may, in that I picture me in the shoes of the guy and the girl being the guy. To explain myself a lot clearer – I often find myself thinking of a very special guy who was a part of my life a couple of years ago. There are days that I really miss him. He is in London now. So as the video begins the scenes of London are quite apt. The days that I really miss him I would say the words to the song portray the way I feel. The gist of the song is – I will try and translate as best I can from Afrikaans to English – as follows:

I am now just like a man, battered ruins to where there once was life, a heathen whose lips could vanish in yours in a time, in a place, and receive repentance again. The wind pump/wind mill turns but there is nothing but dust in the faucets, I need your love to quench my thirst, because over here there are only tears. (The chorus goes) I am thirsty, I get lost in the streets where I live, I am thirsty, I want to get drunk on your wine, but here where I live it’s just salt water and desert, just salt water and desert. I am now still just like a man, a deserted house where there once was life, walls filled with companionship, at a place, at a time, you were my Oasis in the desert. The windmill turns, I battle to sleep, I need your bosom to rest my head, here’s just stones and sand…chorus 3x…I want to get drunk on your wine.

Sunday, November 9, 2014

The Sounds Of Sunset

My ultimate best in summer is sitting on the patio at the end of the day listening to the sounds of sunset.  What does a sunset sound like? Does the question make any sense at all? How can a sunset “sound” like anything? How can one describe this? It all begins when the sun begins to slip from the sky and disappears, but just before sunset, there is this sudden rush of activity. The day shift starts looking for a place to spend the night whilst frantically searching out that last mouthful of food and then with the trees in silhouette, as the sun sets and darkness looms everything quietens down, the last to make a noise are the guinea fowl who wait till it is just dark and then they finally settle down, and there is a moment’s peace before the night shift takes over. There is a moment of silence, but it is also not really a silence. Something is always making a sound even if it’s a leaf rustling in the wind. Then all of a sudden you begin to hear the first sounds of the African night. The sound is a cacophony of insects and it is this that gets in your head, it’s the crickets chirping and the bull frogs croaking. The Nightjars screeching in the distance. It's difficult for me to adequately describe it because so much of it is the emotions it invokes. Words just don't do the sounds any justice. So, once again the question is “What does a sunset sound like?” What I can say is that to me a sunset sounds peaceful.

Saturday, November 8, 2014


Some people are easily upset. As soon as you tell them something, they have a reaction. In the end, it gets easier not to tell them anything. Months, even years, can go by with two individuals failing to communicate. They may be in regular contact - yet if crucial points are never discussed...neither will know what they need to. Maybe it is time for saying what needs to be said. Perhaps it is not necessarily you who has to do all the talking. You may need to do some of the listening.

Sunday, November 2, 2014


I have many misgivings. There may be far more to a particular situation than meets the eye. It seems as if each time I answer one question I come up with two more. Yet, for all that's vague and uncertain, one thing remains constant. One point of reference is fixed. I have to let that be my anchor in the ocean of confusion. I must not haul it up in a moment of false fear and then start drifting aimlessly. If I now cling to my most important emotional priority, everything will make perfect sense.

Thursday, September 11, 2014

All It Is...Is a Frozen Lemon

All it a frozen lemon

Many professionals in restaurants and eateries are using or consuming the entire lemon and nothing is wasted. How can you use the whole lemon without waste?

Simple.. place the washed lemon in the freezer section of your refrigerator. Once the lemon is frozen, get your grater, and shred the whole lemon (no need to peel it) and sprinkle it on top of your foods.

Sprinkle it to your vegetable salad, ice cream, soup, cereals, noodles, spaghetti sauce, rice, sushi, fish dishes, whisky.... the list is endless.

All of the foods will unexpectedly have a wonderful taste, something that you may have never tasted before. Most likely, you only think of lemon juice and vitamin C. Not anymore.

Now that you've learned this lemon secret, you can use lemon even in instant cup noodles.

What's the major advantage of using the whole lemon other than preventing waste and adding new taste to your dishes?

Well, you see lemon peels contain as much as 5 to 10 times more vitamins than the lemon juice itself. And yes, that's what you've been wasting.

But from now on, by following this simple procedure of freezing the whole lemon, then grating it on top of your dishes, you can consume all of those nutrients and get even healthier.

It's also good that lemon peels are health rejuvenators in eradicating toxic elements in the body.

So place your washed lemon in your freezer, and then grate it on your meal every day. It is a key to make your foods tastier and you get to live healthier and longer! That's the lemon secret! Better late than never, right? The surprising benefits of lemon!

Lemon (Citrus) is a miraculous product to kill cancer cells. It is 10,000 times stronger than chemotherapy.

Why do we not know about that? Because there are laboratories interested in making a synthetic version that will bring them huge profits.

You can now help a friend in need by letting him/her know that lemon juice is beneficial in preventing the disease. Its taste is pleasant and it does not produce the horrific effects of chemotherapy.

How many people will die while this closely guarded secret is kept, so as not to jeopardize the beneficial multimillionaires large corporations?

As you know, the lemon tree is known for its varieties of lemons and limes.

You can eat the fruit in different ways: you can eat the pulp, juice press, prepare drinks, sorbets, pastries, etc...It is credited with many virtues, but the most interesting is the effect it produces on cysts and tumours.

This plant is a proven remedy against cancers of all types. Some say it is very useful in all variants of cancer...It is considered also as an anti-microbial spectrum against bacterial infections and fungi, effective against internal parasites and worms, it regulates blood pressure which is too high and an antidepressant, combats stress and nervous disorders.
The source of this information is fascinating: it comes from one of the largest drug manufacturers in the world, says that after more than 20 laboratory tests since 1970, the extracts revealed that It destroys the malignant cells in 12 cancers, including colon, breast, prostate, lung and pancreas...
The compounds of this tree showed 10,000 times better than the product Adriamycin, a drug normally used chemotherapeutic in the world, slowing the growth of cancer cells.

And what is even more astonishing: this type of therapy with lemon extract only destroys malignant cancer cells and it does not affect healthy cells.
So, give those lemons a good wash, freeze them and grate them. Your whole body will love you for it!!!!!

Live simply, Love generously, Care deeply, Speak kindly.



Friday, September 5, 2014

Don't Play Games With A Girl Who Can Play Better

By now, you’ve probably heard about “catfish”. No, not the fish, but the internet kind - people who post fake profiles on social media sites such as Facebook.

Many people may never come across one of these phony profiles, but, for those who do, these frauds can wreak immense havoc, mostly emotional.

I’ve come across a catfish in my time on the web and I’ve met others who have as well – and here’s something very interesting - every one of us had a gut feeling that something was “off” from the get go. It’s easy to ignore that feeling, especially if that person seems nice or popular. Or, if like many people I talked to, you don’t want to be seen as “judgmental”.

These cunning perpetrators are counting on their charm to distract you into ignoring those red flags. In my case I was facing a horrific health challenge in my life. This person was what I needed to give me hope to face the future and I chose to ignore the red flags.  

In my situation, after that initial niggling feeling, towards the end of my treatment and my road to recovery, I started paying very close attention to the inconsistencies in my catfish. It didn’t take long before I had a whole lot of stuff not adding up – I still played along but I started mentioning that things were not adding up. The best was a time difference issue between countries and this happened twice. The first was, I knew that that there were only three hours difference between myself and the destination this person was in and yet they still tried to convince me that it was 5 hours!! And then there was a rugby game that they said they would be going to in two hours in London and this time I made a point and commented on Facebook that “no, the game starts in ten minutes” – “poof” all of a sudden there was a reply “sorry cannot reply to your message – cannot access my facebook messages” – oh please!!! Then they were gone for a week…tried to come back with a lame excuse of getting drunk…Anyway, I am not going to elaborate on the details.

Here’s what you need to know about spotting a catfish:

1.    They will refuse to meet you face to face. This is a HUGE red flag and your most important clue. If they won’t even Skype, you know something is rotten in cyberworld. A common excuse: my webcam is broken. Don’t buy into that. They do not want to be seen because then the con is over. In my situation, due to my health challenge, I did not want to be seen on skype until I was ready to be seen on skype. When I was ready after my treatment and requested to skype – the subject was conveniently shrugged under the carpet.

2.    Pictures often give it away. Pay attention to their pictures. Do they only have a few and do those look like modeling shots? Are there pictures with their family and friends – and are those tagged? Do the pictures look recent or like straight out of the 80’s? Do they ever have pictures from industry events or meeting with other online friends that you share? If you are suspicious about their photos, you can use Google images to find the source of those pictures. This is how I found out that my catfish was using stock photography to represent himself – he was using a foto of a male model. I also knew this and confronted him about it – he said he would upload a recent foto – which ofcourse never happened. This was in the beginning of my treatment and I said its fine that he should just leave it. I guess I was just so desperate to keep this friendship going. When you do not know if you are going to live to see another day you kind of hang on to the things that make you happy.

3.    They tell grandiose stories (celeb friends, million dollar homes, famous lovers, etc.) and have the biggest excuses on the planet (sickness, family member dying, etc). Scratch any catfish and you’ll find a pathological liar underneath the surface. Pathological liars love to tell huge, overblown, dramatic stories. They exaggerate their pain, their fame, their wealth, and their personal lives. If your online acquaintance starts telling you something that feels like complete bullshit, it probably is. Oh yes – my friend knew Richard Branson personally, knew the Sheiks in Dubai and was apparently invited to the Gupta’s wedding!!

4.    They try to get close to you way too quickly and they love to flatter. If they are coming on too strong, be on your guard! Again, here admittedly I enjoyed the flattery – I needed it in my life. I had my family and friends supporting me during my health challenge but I still wanted someone special to be there for me too! During the darkest time in my life the flattery made me feel good.

5.    They share secrets about other people. Catfish will often talk smack about other people to build themselves up and to create alliances. By creating suspicions around other people, you’re less likely to contact them and discuss the catfish. Divide and conquer is a method to preserve their fraud. I cannot say that I experienced this.

6.    Their stories are inconsistent. If you are a good listener, you’ll begin to notice those conflicting details. That’s how I pieced together my catfish’s lies – I listened like a cop and took notes. Start researching anything that feels inauthentic Don’t be afraid to point out any contradictions. In fact, put your catfish in the hot seat and watch how they react. It’s often very telling. Once they begin to suspect you are on to them, they will usually end the friendship and of course, tell anyone who’ll listen that you threw them under the bus.

It came to a point where I had my health challenge behind me. I deleted this person and strangely it felt really weird in a sense that I really felt nothing. I cannot explain really. This person at the end of the day was there for me even with all the things that did not add up – gave me hope for the future, encouraged me, was concerned about me, made me feel good about myself. I guess at the end of it all I would have to admit that I used that to my benefit – I knew that the day would come that it would end. I think I would have to say here that the saying is true that people come into your life for a reason. I am healthy now and I am rebuilding my life. I am ME again. With me being “me” again I will not fall into that trap again. Within this week I once again encountered a fake profile. Did the homework from the outset and knew from the outset that this person was playing games. The frightening thing though was that I was ready to play the game. I accepted the challenge. I was waiting in anticipation but this person just disappeared. Just as well. I came to my senses and decided that I am not going to stoop to that level. I think it was probably the Scorpio in me that came out at the time. I was ready to sting. This time I was prepared to dish out the same crap. It comes down to “Don’t play games with a girl who can play better”.

People create fake profiles for many reasons love, loneliness, money, crime, the thrill, etc. No matter what their motive is, it’s dead wrong. While it may not be illegal to impersonate someone, it’s unethical and cruel.

You can avoid being taken advantage of one of these creeps if you simply trust your instincts and put on your detective’s cap. Always remember, your intuition is usually right and it’s present to protect you. The next time you get a funky vibe from some internet buddy, start doing your homework.

Monday, September 1, 2014

Building Sand Castles

Have you ever sat on a beach, watching children build sand castles? Some know that it will only be a matter of time before their creations are washed away. Others believe themselves to be constructing fortresses, so strong and secure that the sea itself will be unable to destroy them. They, presumably, grow up to be the engineers who make dams and tidal barriers. Give an ocean enough time and it will even erode a mountain. The way to withstand the potential ocean of change is to float, not fight.

Sunday, July 20, 2014

Abundance Prayer

I stumbled upon this Abundance prayer and decided that it was worth sharing.

Here is the Abundance Prayer:
From The Light of God that I Am.
From The Love of God that I Am.
From The Power of God that I Am.
From The Heart of God that I Am.
I Decree-
I dwell in the midst of Infinite Abundance. The Abundance of God is my Infinite Source.
The River of Life never stops flowing. It flows through me into lavish expression. Good comes to me through unexpected avenues and God works in a myriad of ways to bless me.
I now open my mind to receive my good. Nothing is too good to be true. Nothing is too wonderful to have happen. With God as my Source, Nothing amazes me.
I am not burdened by thoughts of past or future. One is gone. The other is yet to come.
By the power of my belief, coupled with my purposeful fearless actions and my deep rapport with God, my future is created and my abundance made manifest.
I ask and accept that I am lifted in this and every moment into Higher Truth. My mind is quiet.
From this day forward I give freely and fearlessly into life and Life gives back to me with magnificent increase. Blessings come in expected and unexpected ways. God provides for me in wondrous ways. I AM indeed grateful. And I let it be so.
I wish the same thing for the goodness of all.

Friday, July 4, 2014

Good and Evil

"People like to say that the conflict is between good and evil. The real conflict is between truth and lies." - Miguel Angel Ruiz

Often I have wondered how negativity enters the soul. That, and why do these energies exist in the first place? Strange things to wonder but I do, and….if I am completely honest …I suspect it is because I myself am also a little bit strange. No really, it's true.
Most people are content to simply live their lives and perhaps stumble upon a few of life's answers. But me? Silly girl…I need to understand the hot burning truth at the center of all things, no matter how hidden, no matter how unsightly. And it has taken me many years to fully comprehend just how few people in this world actually search - sincerely and passionately search for those truths. And I am, sadly, one of them. A person I know has been lying to me. Quite a few blatant one's at that. But that's not the point. The point is we both know they are lying. So, where does that need come from? I mean, really….What could possibly be accomplished by lying? Shame minimized? A clever insult? Feelings of power?
I suppose all of those things may be in play but, really….at the end of the day…it simply means that this person has become the kind of a person that would do such a thing. The lying is a by-product. The lying reveals a journey best not taken. And that is precisely the journey those first dark filaments take as they coil themselves deeply within the heart. It's an old story, isn't it?
But, you know, I also suspect that these dark moments….these mistruths…serve a very important spiritual purpose. In a way, it's like a cleansing. Perhaps there has to be evil so that good can prove it's purity above it. I have spent much of my life pondering these kinds of questions. Yip, I'm strange. No hope for me. I got it bad. 

Sunday, June 29, 2014

Complete Bafflement

Why do some people do the things they do? Why do they adopt particular attitudes and hold certain opinions? What is it within them that makes them see some things as clearly as the hand in front of their face yet renders them unbelievably oblivious to what's surely obvious and essential? I am completely filled with bafflement at a string of recent developments in my emotional life. I hope coming events bring at least a degree of enlightenment and with it, oddly, reassurance.

Wednesday, June 25, 2014

Seize The Day

We are often encouraged to "seize the day". Quite right too. Surely it is up to us to make the most of every moment and extract as much opportunity as we can from every experience and encounter that comes our way. But what if someone else gets there first? What if we can't "seize the day" because someone else has already seized it? Actually, days don't work this way, even if they sometimes seem to. It is important not to assume that you have been pipped to the post. That victory line is yours. You will yet cross it.

Monday, June 16, 2014

What Makes You Special?

What makes you special? What makes you different? Stand back and recognise the wonderfully inspiringly obvious. You are you. Nobody else in this whole wide world can be the person that you are, or lead your life. You may have many similarities with your fellow humans and you may even have qualities in your own personality that you wish you could alter. But none of this detracts from your unique glory.

Sunday, June 1, 2014

Nature Always Laughs Last

For as far back as I can remember, people have under-estimated me. Just a girl. All have had their opinion. Really, though, they have no idea. None what-so-ever.
Oh, they've all tried to define me….those arrogant sorts. They've tried to crumple me into their narrow, distrustful little mentalities. Just be like this, just be like that…as if I were a page in some often-read book and they, alone, ran the library. Relentless, they have been…these self-involved types….frantic, arrogant and relentless. It is, I suppose, in their nature. But nature, you see, always has a bigger plan. And nature always laughs last.
Some always challenge my values...attempt to publicly shame my ideas...Be forewarned, the negative sorts will lay a lot of eggs. My advice to those in the same boat...  stay strong, spiritually and emotionally.  It is important to realise that negativity exists in this world because we need it… like a ship needs a compass …so that we may overcome the undiscovered parts of ourselves and sail to new horizons.
Stand by your principles, walk silently and be beholden to no one. It is the way of all wisdom.

Wednesday, May 28, 2014

How Can You Mix Fire And Water

The Fool begins to wonder if he will finally find the answer he's after. It occurs to him that so far, he's been dealing with opposites: the two opposing sides of the scales.Does one always have to be surrendered to get the other? he wonders.

It is at this point that he comes upon a winged figure standing with one foot in a brook, the other on a rock. The radiant creature pours something from one flask into another. Drawing closer, the Fool sees that what is being poured from one flask is fire, while water flows from the other. The two are being blended together into a completely different substance!

"How can you mix fire and water?" the Fool finally whispers. Never pausing the Angel answers, "You must have the right vessels and use the right proportions."
The Fool watches with wonder. "Can this be done with all opposites?" he asks. "Indeed," the Angel replies, "Any oppositions, fire and water, man and woman, thesis and anti-thesis, can be made into a unified third. It is only a lack of will and a disbelief in the possibility that keeps opposites, opposite." 
And that is when the Fool begins to understand that he is the one who is keeping his universe in twain. In him the two could merge. All it takes, the Fool realises, is the right proportions, the right vessel and enough faith that the two can be unified.

Monday, May 19, 2014


If you didn't feel the way that you are feeling, there would be something wrong with your feeling faculties. A very wise person once told me that feelings are like precious jewels. Even uncomfortable emotions are priceless beyond measure. Without them, what are we? Robots! Machines. Brains on legs? There is nothing wrong with having a keen intellect but ultimately, there is nothing so impressive about it, either. What's in your heart counts for far more than what's in your head.

Arguments And Counter Arguments

There are always arguments and counter arguments. How should we weigh the positives against the negatives? We soon grow tired of being buffeted by the options that blow across our lives like crosswinds on an open headland. So we put almost any shelter in place, as long as it seems to promise peace. Once you are able to put clear boundaries in place and to make wise choices about the direction that your life needs to take next, you will begin to feel so much better.

Friday, May 2, 2014

Unplanned Processes

Sometimes, we find ourselves doing things for no apparent reason. We 'coincidentally end up' in a certain situation. We 'unexpectedly arrive' at a particular place. We 'unintentionally say' something that turns out to have enormous impact. But is all this entirely unconscious? Can such unplanned processes sometimes benefit us?

Saturday, April 5, 2014

It's That Simple

There are a very few moments in this lifetime when we get to shape our character and choose our destiny. Precious few. Always, always, always…these seemingly insignificant events lead us unknowingly and sometimes haphazardly down that winding pathway toward the inevitability of our fate. It's the way life works. It's the way life has always worked.

Hidden deep within the comfortable weave of all those tiny little choices, however, are the moments that can either devastate or transform lives.

All significant change occurs on an inward level. We must all choose to either look for power inside of ourselves, or outside. It's that simple. It has always been that simple.

Thursday, March 13, 2014

Schiller with Nadia Ali "Try" Official Music Video


Silence Is The Language Of God

"Silence is the language of God, all else is poor translation." - Rumi  

We've all met them, the self-involved ones, those that rationalise, the very shallow, the weak among us, the materialistic, the ones that smile when they lie. Sadly, we've all met far too many of them in life.
I wonder about these people. Just what do they say to themselves at the end of the day? How did all this begin for them? A heart so closed can't possibly have been born that way…or could it?
Everyone will comprehend their own emotional capacity, judge the promises of others, and will, perhaps for the first time, witness their own depth of commitment.
Compassion, empathy and respect will most definitely battle self-interest, personal gain and pride. Some previously hidden, very fundamental part of ourselves will become visible, well-lit by circumstances or, in some cases, even publicly debated.  The key here is to understand that all are a test of self-honesty.
For many much of this will arrive as a sudden but unavoidable conflict, a quick attraction or as a series of reoccurring events or memories. For others, a previously silent friend or lover will demand concrete times, dates or promises...and for others still, the reappearance of a lost love will trigger bizarre social complications. All will test the empathetic heart, all will challenge deeply held values and all actions will be remembered for many years to come. 
It's the silent reality that will count, not the words.
So, if love is to take its rightful place in our lives, it's a test that must be passed.

Saturday, March 8, 2014

Aries Man And Scorpio Woman

As the flaming Aries comes in touch with the cool watery Scorpio either the gift is priceless or they just fall head off. The interaction between these two signs is usually effective with each giving its share of warmth and coolness respectively to keep the temperatures stable but excess of one, affects the other severely.

An Aries man is a very proficient and gutsy person who always likes to take the first move in all aspects of life from profession to love. Aries man has a superior masculinity which is admired by all and will definitely be respected above all by a Scorpio woman, if she is the one for him. He finds the route to happiness in quite a reckless manner and keeps on demanding undivided attention now and then. But at the same time he is a true gentleman and is always ready to be the first one to resolve all the differences that arises after the occurrence of a quarrel.

A Scorpio woman is a charismatic and glamorous woman, who can seduce almost any man on this earth with her single glance. The depth of her will and the grace of her persona are incomparable and definitely appreciable at all levels. An Aries man can easily get attracted to her feminine attributes and fall for this lady like none other to spend his lifetime with her. At times she may be mysterious and suspicious but normally loves to stay calm and gentle.
A Scorpio woman is a lady who can provide an Aries man with the passion of his level in all fields including love and romance. Moreover she plays the part of an all in one supporter very well for him. She cannot stand anyone who comes in the way of the happiness and success of her man and is ready to harm anyone who hurts her man in anyway. She is very generous so all the love and favours done by him are rewarded with alot more than any man can expect. He finds it difficult to dedicate himself at first but the loyalty and devotion of her makes him learn a lot more about love. But the element of secrecy of Scorpio woman can cause tension between these two lovers. Moreover since she is suspicious in nature, the impulsiveness of her Aries man can create difficulties to Scorpio woman’s mental peace resulting in unwanted arguments.

The Aries man is an alpha male who can make a Scorpio woman wanted and protected at the same time. He is as passionate as any Scorpio woman can ask for and at the same time he is very faithful once he knows that he is with the right woman which she definitely is. Though she may find him lacking emotional maturity but he is always there to fill her life with excitement and fun. He is always ready to spend lavishly for his Scorpio lady and compliments her on all her delicacies and looks. But often Aries man is always interested in the maidens around for satisfying his need of appreciation which can make a Scorpio woman suspicious and worried regarding their love life. But she can always find him by her side whenever she is unhappy or unwell and needs real support.

Once their relationship manages to sustain for a longer period of time and they develop true love for each other, the Aries man gradually develops the much needed emotional maturity and the Scorpio woman starts trusting indisputably. The differences between them are bridged by their mutual trust and forgiveness. He just lets his Scorpio lady win in every field without any egos to interfere, for which he gets immense respect, attention and love in return. Finer rewards of emotional security and shared affection are showered by the seven skies on both the love birds soaring high in love. The water element of Scorpio woman provides the needed cascades to the flames of Aries man and the Aries man in return gives his lady love the warmth of fire which her cool surface craves for leading to a peaceful togetherness forever.

The physical attraction between an Aries man and a Scorpio woman is quite amazing and it can create a good foundation for their relationship. Both need a balanced proportion of love and sex in their lives and this relationship helps them fulfill this dream. She is willing to do anything to fulfill his desires, which makes him like her immensely as she does not have a sluggish approach towards sex and at the same time she lets him dominate her. She must be aware that he pays much more attention to her cleavage, her nylons, her legs, her ankles, her bottom, her breasts, than to anything she is saying or doing. This fact is something she can use to please her Aries male and to get plenty of returns. To make her Aries man go crazy, she could smile sweetly and reach out with her hand to lightly touch his arm, trying to encourage him to make his move. At the same time, he could be more considerate of her needs, mainly emotional, and spend more time with her in intimacy and affection. The act of complete submission in their sexual life makes them feel secure and whole, both at an emotional and physical level.

When an Aries man and a Scorpio female are attracted towards each other, the attraction is very mutual both emotionally and physically. The masculinity and nerve of the Aries man always clicks her while her magnetism and loyalty makes him fall for her instantly. Both of them share the common emotion of passion which is raw in Aries and ripe in Scorpio but still they enjoy each others’ sides well. But the jealous, possessive and controlling attitude of Aries is hard for the Scorpio to match up with while the Aries hate the secretive and suspicious nature of the Scorpios. Both of them need to manipulate their personal squabbles and perceptual formations to maintain peace.

Amorous Nature Of A Scorpio Woman

extract taken from astrology-oracle.

Faint hearts never won a Scorpio female.  It takes a man who knows exactly what he wants to hold his ground with this woman.

Scorpio is very emotional, very affectionate, and very demanding.  She is not interested in light flirtation or a bed for the night.  Neither does she believe in sharing.  Any man who thinks it isn’t necessary to sign a treaty just because he’s involved with a woman would do well to avoid the Scorpio female.  She believes in treaties with irrevocable clauses and lots of fine print spelling out just what you can’t do.

How does she get away with being so possessive and jealous?  Because she is a marvelous, fascinating, irresistible woman - exciting in the bedroom, entertaining in the living room.  She carries with her an intoxicating air of mystery.  She can drive a man to the brink of despair and with one gesture summon him back to the heights of happiness.

There is no in between with this explosive female.  With any other woman of the zodiac, you can work out some sort of compromise about who has rights and who has suffered wrongs.  Not with her.  You have to knuckle under and make the best of your bargain, or settle for living in the centre of a permanent earthquake.

Love is very important to her, and she can turn on enough magnetism to attract any man.  If a man is really special, she is willing to play the role of aggressor.  Her dynamo starts to whir as soon as her remarkable intuitions tell her that this man is someone she’ll be happy with.  Her intuitions are rarely, if ever, wrong.  She is gifted with the ability to penetrate into hidden secrets of human nature.  She can also see into a man’s sexual fantasies, and with her imaginative techniques she can keep him hooked.

Scorpio is a water sign, so she is susceptible to the feelings of others.  Her most intense desire is for a close, committed union.  In a relationship she cannot bear coldness or casualness or a feeling that she is being shunned aside.  When she is in love she is at her most vulnerable, for then a lover can hurt her without even knowing it.  Another woman might forgive and forget, but when Scorpio woman is hurt she will always strike back.  If necessary, she will destroy.

However, despite what you’ve heard about Scorpio’s willfull, passionate nature, she’s faithful to the man she chooses.  Hers is fixed water, and she possess an enduring capacity for loyalty.  A man could not have a fiercer ally.  If Scorpio woman loves you, she will defend and protect you with her dying breath.  What she demands is constancy - what she offers is fidelity.  She is possessive, but most men with a Scorpio woman in their lives will tell you they want nothing more than to be possessed by her.

Intellect vs Instinct

Rational arguments can fly back and forth forever. Most people, though, when making a big decision, will always give secret, private, preference to feeling over thought. But, no matter how convincing, their explanations are after the fact. Their feelings have shaped their choices. You have a deep secret hope. It doesn't seem logical. But you should trust it.

Monday, February 10, 2014

Valentine's Plans

Valentine's day is a few days away. As people now make their Valentine's plans, much attention is no doubt being given to 'quality'. Nobody wants to treat their loved one - or future loved one - to substandard chocolate, an inferior floral gift or a mediocre meal. We don't even want our Valentine's cards to be 'ordinary'. We want them to seem 'special'. But what really makes an item or an event 'special'? Surely, it is not the cost? It is the amount of care that has been put into it. At every level of your life, romantic or otherwise, quality must be the priority. 

Appropriate Or Shocking

It is not just clothes, hairstyles and hobbies that come swiftly in and out of fashion. Attitudes and expectations also wax and wane in accordance with social trends. We all want to do what we believe to be the right thing but our definition of this is influenced by the beliefs and opinions of the people around us. History, sadly, is full of instances where what was once considered acceptable and appropriate, is now perceived as shameful, even shocking. At the end of the day, it is so important not to conform to a questionable standard.

Sunday, January 26, 2014

Everything Has Potential

Sometimes, it is Ok for things to be less than Ok. We have, in our minds, an unrealistic expectation. We think everything has to be perfect. If it isn't, we figure we must be doing something wrong. But we live on a planet where nothing is without fault. Nothing....and nobody! What counts, in the end, is not how you manage to make things right. It's how you manage to live with the fact that some things will always be a bit wrong. Nothing feels right when you don't feel right. Everything has potential when you are willing to make room for a little magic in your life. Draw a deep breath, shake away the shadow and let some light shine in.

Thursday, January 23, 2014

The Darkest Hour

The darkest hour is always just before the dawn, and the moment of greatest tension invariably precedes the time of deepest relief. It is all very well to make such academic observations from a distance but much harder to keep those truths in mind when the hour is indeed dark and the tension is palpably mounting. If any aspect of your life seems confusing and complicated, to sort them out, you must first understand them. That requires you to stand back from your emotions.